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writes:I am having a hard time with a girl i like. We were good friends before, and ever since i asked her out, she and i have barely been able to talk to one another. On top of this, this girl i like's friend also likes me, and im starting to become attracted to her because the girl i asked out is not making an effort to further our relationship, while as her friend is more talkative, is making it relativly clear she is interested, unlike the girl i asked out, and she is more attractive as well. I know really am considering stopping my attempts with this girl and going out with her friend, but i dont want to upset her or make her feel resentful towards her friend because i chose her friend over her. What should i do? should i end it with the girl im dating now, or keep trying with her? Reply to this Question
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reader, Passthrough  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 Not to disagree, but its proven... The grass is always greener on the other side :-D
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): Wow, tough spot....you don't sound at all interested in the first girl, so stop asking her out, and remain civil and friendly to her when you see her.
Wait a period of 1 month and strike up a friendship first with the other girl, and talk to her at some point about going out on a date, ask her if her girlfriend would be mad at her. It is my opinion that true friends don't date a guy that her friend dated or really likes without her permission, it is breaking the bond of trust in the friendship...but if you handle it in this way you may find that the first girl won't care that you asked her friend out.
The way you stated your question, it sounds like you are wanting to have a bird in hand is worth two in the bush, and old saying that means you want your cake and eat it, too, uuuuh really women aren't replacable, you don't use one until the other one will agree to date you.....you do the right thing and treat each girl with dignity and respect.
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