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*ubblygirl
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months. Everything was pretty good except some little issues along the way until this weekend. He is a sweet guy who has good intentions and he loves me very much and I love him but I need outside opinions.He went to Vegas this weekend and phoned me today telling me what him and his 2 guy friends were up to. He said he was going to a show tonight and long story short, he lied on the show and hid the fact he is going to a strip show when he knows I hate that.So my issues are that he JUST lied to me on top of the fact he smokes occasionally, he was still in love with his ex when we met (getting over her), he goes to the bar too much and he doesnt really like my friends.Should I dump him? Im so hurt by his lie and the other little issues have built up because it it. Please help
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Guys lie about strip clubs because women get upset. Why should he tell you something that will get you upset? If he dosen't lie, then he wouldn't be able to go out with his friends. If he was in Vegas with his friends, what did you expect him to do. His friends were going to watch that show, should he sit alone and wait outside for them?
He was in love with his ex, that means he isn't now.
He smokes occasionally, something that only damages his health and dosen't involve you at all.
He goes to the bar too much, again I'll assume that he dosen't do this alone and he usually goes with his friends?
He dosen't like your friends, well good for him, why should he, they're your friends not his.
You don't like anything he dose. Sounds like you need to be in total control when your in a relationship. To stay with you, he has to tell the truth and then watch you get angry and upset when he tells you he's been doing things you don't like. He can't smoke, even though he dosen't do it much. He's can't hang out with the guys, because when he dose you say he's at the bar too much. He's got to like your friends, again because this is what pleases you. He however likes to hang out with his mates, doing men things, like drinking and smoking and sometimes just going wild in Vegas. Things you want to stop, so he'll eventually loose his friends as he changes to please you and ignores the things that pleases him...
mmmmmm.. yep, I think this relationship is busted. It's far better if you both find people who share your interests or at least have enough respect for you to allow you to follow your own path and treat you like an independent adult who has interests, desires and goals of their own.
Your with the wrong guy, you need somebody who has a less overtly manly nature.
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reader, advice angel +, writes (3 April 2010):
 no woman likes the idea of there boyfriends going to a strip club,he lied to you wich to sadly say isnt good especially if there has been more than one account,to be fair you should tell him you dont approve of cheating and then see where your heart leads you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): Well 8 months into the relationship and if he's already lying to you its not no working out well...
if he loved you while he knows that you dont like strip clubs he wouldn't have gone. His little issues are obviously upsetting you. I mean he didnt tell you he smoked..occasinally and if he's still got feelings for he's ex-well...i mean picture this guy in about on years time and he keeps lying to you upsetting you ect do you really want that.
In my opinion u need to dump him...but the choice is yours
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