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writes:Ok, so i'm with this guy for 2 months, and there already started to be problems.First , he isn't showing me that much affection, which disturbs me and he is not that serious in the relationship.It takes him 3 hours to reply to my texts and then cames up with lame excuses, sometimes he promises me something and then won't keep his promise.And then, he's extremely jealous, like i can't hug any guy , but he does hug another girls.We fought about this problems alot of times and he said things will change. But nothing changed. He said he loves me alot, and dreams to have a family with me.I'm thinking about dumping him for a while and see if he tries to make up again.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 you have only been in the relationship for 8 weeks and this doesn't seem to be getting off to a good start. but not just because of him but you too.
you want more affection than he wants to give.
it is ok to not leave it for 3 hours before replying to a text - he should not have to give you excuses for this - lame or otherwise!
he lets you down after promising things. does he mean the promises at the time or honestly do you feel that maybe he feels backed into a corner by you? if he doesn't mean things he shouldn't say it - whatever his reasons are.
the double standards - he thinks you are not allowed to hug guys but he can hugs girls.
fighting already at this early stage in the relationship. its been 8 WEEKS you should both be on your best behaviour, getting to know each other and trying to impress each other - if you are fighting now already i am sorry but i think this is doomed!
again, you have been together for 8 weeks and he tells you he loves you a lot and dreams of having a family with you?? he does not know you well enough yet to promise this so i doubt it is a genuine promise.
you are now contemplating breaking up with him to put him to the test of whether he will come back or not? not really the correct way to go. if you do end up back together i suppose you will be back here in the future worried about what may have been happening while you guys were on your break!
in summary - it seems to me that there are too many points about each other that irritate and if you do stay together there will always be fireworks - but you might enjoy a relationship like that, some people do. myself i would find it very stressful
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 Dumping him will get you nowhere but single without him coming after you. So if you ever dump him, let there be a real reason why you want to do so.
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reader, cindy 15 +, writes (9 August 2011):
 u cant expect every relationship to be perfect or any guy is he really worth all the hasle is what you should be asking your self if u love him enough then try to talk to him through it and messages cant always be answered right away it take me aroung 3 hours aswell i dont even notice when my boyfriend texts me
instead of testing him to see if he comes back to you why dont you instead talk first instead of jumping to conclitions and being rash and later regret it like most relationships
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