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*sk The Leprechaun
writes:There's a girl in one of my classes who I really like. REALLY like. It's not my best class, actually it's my worst, and I'm not sure whether or not to drop it and pick up another half course next year. It's probably better to stick with it, but I really hate it, and am failing it. I really do like this girl though. She's just beautiful inside and out, she's smart, funny, kind, and just the epitome of my type. She's Bi, but she has a boyfriend.So anyway, I had it all figured out, If she dropped it, I was gonna drop it too, do something else and probably be happier subject wise next year and I'd forget her. I thought this would be pretty likely, but today she said she was going to continue with this subject and she broke up with her boyfriend. Typical, I'd just psyched myself up to finally move on and get over her and then everything changes.So now I don't know what to do, should I drop it or not? I mean, she could do so much better than me, obviously. Should I still try and get over her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): The person who said that whether you keep or drop the course shouldn't depend on the girl in it is right. But if it is a class you need and she is good in it, you might ask her to help you study. If she likes you too, that would be a way to get to know each other. And if you drop the class afterwards anyway, you will have made a connection with her.
If what you are worried about is what she will think of you if you can't handle the class, that is another issue, but again, you aren't taking the class to impress her. If you get to know each other it is likely that she will be impressed with other things you are good at, which maybe aren't the same things she is.
If you don't know each other very well, her telling you that she broke up with her boyfriend could be a sign of interest. So maybe just ask her out, and tell her that you are thinking of dropping the class. Maybe she will have helpful advice, or can inspire you with her interest in the material.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (24 March 2010):
 I'm sure you can still be friends even if she is not in your class! You cannot put a potential relationship with someone who has just broken up with a guy over your education, that is just crazy. Your education is your future, failiing a class could mean that you dont get your grades to go to uni, or you miss out on a job because your grades are not good enough. Is that really worth it just for a girl you like?!
If you have the chance to take another course and do well in that, and get better grades then you have to go for it. But if you will only get half a grade as apposed to a full qualification with the current course - then really you should stick with it and just ask your teacher for extra help. You are presumably studying for your A levels, so by this point in your education you need to be able to ask for help when you need it, get extra tuition in your spare time if you have to....you are old enough now to be able to ask for help in order to make sure you get good grades.
I think you need to forget about the girl in all of this and put your education and future career first. What would be the right decision for your grades? What would help you get a job/get into uni? Would half a course be ok? Or are you going to have to get your head down and work a heck of a lot harder in the current course?
The girl really is irrelevant, she has no bearing on this decision. Just stay friends with her and you never know what might happen now she has broken up with her boyfriend. But dont make any decision on your education with a girl in mind, that is just a recipe for disaster and you will only look back with regret if you do base your decision around her.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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