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writes:Ok, so I blew it, and I'd like some advice as to what to do now.My boyfriend is 7 years older than me and has more "history" because of it. Last night, we'd had a bit too much to drink, and I got insecure about something he brought up from his past. To keep it short, we got in a fight, and he was going to sleep in the other bedroom. I went in to try to de-escalate things, and we wound up talking it out. We went to bed together, woke up and made love this morning ... everything is fine. I guess.The problem is, I can't stop beating myself up. I feel like an idiot - I have absolutely no reason to be insecure. He treats me like gold. I'm wondering if I should just let it go or if I should do something special for him to apologize for being so stupid.What do you think? Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess you are right. It's my guilt that's the issue. If he's let it go (he was teasing me about it this morning), I should too.
I think I'll do something special for him, but I don't think I'll tell him it's an apology. I'll just do it to let him know how much I appreciate him, and that should make me feel a bit better too.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (19 February 2009):
 Eh, the only way you should do anything exceptional is if it will make you feel better. He seems to feel fine. Now you just need to feel better about it! So, if you need to do something super nice to your boyfriend to make yourself feel absolved of guilt, go ahead and cook him dinner or take his car to the wash.
But, really, I think that the sex you gave him this morning is special enough!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): it seems to me in his mind all is forgotten. why dont you do something special for no reason. treat him to a romantic night to show how special and important he is to you. and forget his past as the saying goes....
"the past is the past, the future is a mystrey and the present is a gift, thats why its called present"
everyone has history but thats just it, its history.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): do not feel silly.what made you feel like this?once you know that we can help you.
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