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writes:from startneed your suggestion, should i take a 2nd divorce, listed below things I had got in my marriage of 1 yearHe never wanted to get married to me, kept on finding lame excusesHe was thrown from his job because of sexual harassmentHe did not want to get married, only after he realized that he had no choice...and lot of my pressure he got married to meI kept him forcing for job, and he diid not want tooHe fought with meHe started convincing me to shift to my flat, because he could not afford his flat rentHe started hitting meHe drove me to suicide attemptsI stopped thinking about my sonHe was never concern about my sonHe is was still in touch with his x-girl friend and was not ready to tell her that he is married...when asked he use to fight saying why should IHe used my computer, my house to chat with other womanHe never to took his business seriously , he use to sleep or be on internetHe use to hide is mobile from meHe use to prefer television than being with meHe left home couple of times but came back , because he had no where to goHe never took interest in my son even so he did not even remember him sometimesHe never felt that he has to work and give his family a better, lifeHe would always think about himself , how he looks, his absurd idea about his business, which he would not follow up at all,He was too lazy, even to get up and go to work...He mortgaged my golds , used my money however never utter a word to return it back to me ,,instead he would blame me , and say I was the one who mortgaged it for him, he never wanted too.He still didnot want to do anything out of his life even though I was pregnant, ultimately I had a miscarriageHe knew that I sold my house, so he with drew money from our joint accountHe went to Nasik to become sponge on his friend now, not even bothered about his businessHe would cleverly tell me not to break the FD for my son and than make me break itHe even used my bonus money to pay his loanIn short he never loved me and my son, and I and my son landed up on roads because of himHe was a bad example for my Son, he was lazy and did not have aim in life just big talksEven now he blames me and others for his incapabilities , but does not want to work on itHe wants others to take care of his basic requirements and he would do small errands as time passHe absolutely has no goal in his life, just wants to sit and cry I would not understand him ...and now I am scared that his creditors will come here and make my life miserableHis best friend and his business partner has kicked him out...probably they realized that he is worth nothing
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reader, petina1  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 It would be so easy to say 'Yes Divorce Him'. But i dont really know all the facts. I could say, he sounds like he is going through a big depression. No interest in anything or anyone (including you). I'ts not his son and he's not taken him on board to treat him like his own and it looks like your son has not had any feelings for him. I would always put my son first and foremost even with his own biological father. Try to see where things went wrong, you must have loved him at some point as you made a committment. If he's not prepared to work at your marriage, then yes, you know what to do.
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