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writes:Hi everyone,Thank you if you are reading this and offer some insight. I have a colleague at my workplace who I have always been attracted to but have hesitated to pursue much because we are colleagues and I am a not a big believer in workplace romances.We are both set to retire fairly soon and he has asked out. I am going to dinner with him but have the philosophy of having a fun night out and making a new friend...best not to analyze it too much.He has a bit of a backstory according to a colleague who is a mutual friend. Apparently he has had quite a number of relationships that start of well enough, progress and then he ends them.I believe this to be true and this is another reason I have been kind of cautious.I am not a believer in the philosophy that a guy keeps pulliing this kind of thing till he finds the right woman. I am a believer that this guy does not embrace commitment. He has never been married. I was married for fifteen years and am good terms with my ex.So my questions are:Should I just take this date as a one off to keeo myself from being one of the list of broken relationships he has had?.That is it:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2016): Go slow. Go out as "acquaintances only" a few times, before you decide to "Date" him. That means not even holding hands, not going to his place, not inviting him in at your place. You get the picture, make sure you stay in control of what happens. Get to know him before you date him - see if you even want to be his friend.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 December 2016):
 I think it makes sense for you to be cautious with this guy. He doesn't exactly have a very good dating track record AND he is also a co-worker.
Maybe go out to dinner with NO expectation of making this into a "relationship" but as a friendly dinner instead?
And I would DEFINITELY keep sex out of the equation until you know where you stand.
He might pull the "everything is great, so I'll end it it" with you too. And there might be something MORE to the story as to WHY he ends it after a short time.
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