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writes: Hi At present I am in a relationship which I am not happy with and he is the father of my child (we have lived together for 12 yrs). I recently started a job and met a guy who is in the same situation as me. When we first met he told me he was not in love with her and was still looking to marry the right woman.Anyway to cut along story short. We have developed a very close bond at work - colleagues are speculating and are constantly saying that we are a couple. We did go out once, but nothing happpened. He follows me around at work and I feel he is interested, but nothing has happened. I really have alot of feelings for him as he supports me and listens to me. I dream about him when we are not together and long for him. I want out of my relationship and want to be with him. We are both not married to our partners.Sometimes I think he is very interested in me in a romantic way, but he seems to hold back. I would like to suggest we go out but am frightened about our friendship and work relationship.This is really getting me down and I am thinking the best solution is to give up my job and look for another and still maintain this friendship that way it would not be awkward. He says he would be unhappy when I threaten to leave but this is affecting me and I am a career minded person and my bosses are pleased with me.I would like us both to leave our partners and be together, but am I being to much of an "fantasist" or is he too frightened and just happy getting what he wants from work?M
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reader, Angel Underneath +, writes (29 December 2005):
Two seperate issues overlapping. In all honesty - cpould your current relationship be saved if this other man was not on the scene. If the answer is no then leave the man you are with. It's not fair to use him as a safety net until something better comes along. If the answer is yes then save your current relationship.Once you are single and have had time on your own then start considering who to date. It easy to blow things out of propotion when its all fantasy and "safe". Would you and this other man ever be able to trust each other when you both know that the other is capable of thinking of a new partner before the old one had been finished with?Good luck
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