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writes:I started seeing my ex again about 5 months ago and i found out a week ago that he is still with his girlfriend and she is now 10 weeks pregnant !! Wow i cldnt tell u how sad and devistated I'am... I really loved my ex and thought that maybe he came back cause we were ment to be?!?! ...I hvnt said anything to him yet cause i dnt now how to approach him about it or what to do???...shld i freak out on him, shld i talk comly to him or cry my eyes out OR ACT LIKE I DNT CARE??? I'm really trying to be strong about this but I'm really hurt cuz he comes over like nothing is wrong!!...he hasnt tld me about her or the baby on the way...i CAN TELL SOMETHING HAS BEEN BOTHERING HIM, IS HE FEELING GUILTY?? please help me!!!....(.MEN I WANT ANSWERS FROM YOU TOO PLEASEEEEEE!!
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reader, ale_12  +, writes (11 June 2010):
You should cut off all contact with him and if he asks why have you not talked to him tell him what you found out. Do not tell him that you will still be with him or see him because once a guy cheats he will cheat again.
Tell the girl when she has had her baby about what he has done and she will hopefully open her eyes and will see that the guys is not worth shit.
If you decide to tell him i understand if you cry but try not to because then it will make you look weak. And then he will think that he has you at the palm of his hands and will try to do what he wants with you (like what he did this time).
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 June 2010):
Cut contact and ignore him. Don't cry, it won't make a difference. Don't try to act like you don't care, it won't make a difference. Just cut contact and ignore him. Anything else won't work and you'll look desperate.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 June 2010):
 Oh boy. This guy did you a favor. Apparantly, you were seeing him, and for whatever reason, you broke up with him. Then all of the nostalgic, romantic feelings welled up, and you went back with him. Now, he's gone and done something for which all the "I miss him and love him" feelings can't erase. He's made another woman pregnant while cheating on you, and for 10 weeks, he never breathed a word of it to either of you ladies.
You now know his character is even worse than the simple cheater. He lies like other people tell the truth - with no remorse. You've just been saved from getting married or having kids with this pond scum.
Do not *ever* go back to him. That would be like a dog returning to his own vomit. I almost feel sorry for this other woman who became pregnant with this man, because he has lied to her, cheated on her, and ruined her life, and will keep doing it over and over.
Why would you cry your eyes out to HIM?? I know betrayal is devastating, but he doesn't deserve one thing from you except cold, hard, calculated and utter scorn. You confront him, look him in the eyes, and tell him that you feel sorry for that other woman because she just inherited a worthless man. Then show him your back and leave.
You, on the other hand, will find a guy who loves you and doesn't sneak around on you. ONLY if you never waffle for this ex ever again. He doesn't deserve it.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 Calm down hon,
Unfortunately he is your ex. He's in a relationship and is expecting a baby. He does not love you and you will not get him back.
My advice is to cut contact and ignore him. Your only option is to move on.
Though I am wondering if he plans to use you as the "other women" since he did not tell you about his girlfriend or his baby. You know he is in a relationship with a person carrying his child. He is off limits!
In other words if he comes to you claiming he loves you and wants to be with you then ignore him. He will just use you. You will also hurt a pregnant women and she will find out.
Move on with your life. I know it is hard but your relationship with your ex is over and you will not get him back.
Good Luck!
If you ever need to talk feel free to contact me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): You should totally just back away also, you should tell her he is a lying cheating piece of shit. you should totally talk to her first though then have him come over and have you both sat there. That would fuck him up and it would be no less than what he deserves.
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