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writes:Hi cupid, am a young guy of 22.am very grateful to been with you here. my question is just relationship question. i met this girl on the internet about three months ago, she's from Philippine and am from Nigeria. she's the same age with me. i love her and i know she also love me. we sent love message to each other and she told me she still a virgin when i asked her and she want me to pay her visit to her country and I told her if she can wait until i get myself ready and also something for my future. she's very happy about that. we call, text and chat with each other with web cam. after that i met another girl who was 15years old and i love her very much and she also do, even her parents love me too, because her parents was there when i chat with her and we chat with web cam, her parents was happy to have someone like me.she's from Philippine too. they want me to come to their country to start life. i told them my plans, if they can wait for me as i told the first girl. am confused to have two heart now at the same time and i don't know what to do, but am really love the first girl.she told me her condition that she's lonely and am the only person she met since her childhood and she don't want me to interrupt our love and i know that our relationship will lead somewhere and i can't marry a girl who is the same age with me. my question is "is there any disadvantage of marrying a girl who is the same age with you? or should i focus on the 15years one?please i need help for this situation before i make mistake.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): You are leading two people on, one woman, one girl. The 15 year old is a girl. She is not mature. The 22 year old is the same age as you although you are both young.
I dont think you should settle for any of them. You sound too insecure and immature to know what to do just yet. If you truly love someone you wont have doubts/lead on a relationship with someone else?
If in case, you actually love both, then still, dont take any. You will always have regrets and wonder "what if, what if" if you pick one or the other. Find the place in your heart where you dont have to wonder.
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reader, tux  +, writes (9 November 2009):
 It would be a mistake to focus on the 15 year old, she is too young and still needs to grow up and make up her mind which she may change according to what her friends or magazines say. There is nothing wrong with being with someone your own age. I'm only 4 months older than my wife.
but on either hand, considering the distance, you are taking a risk, but going with the 22 yo is a better bet. but then again, dealing with the philippines, you may find the love of your life.. or one who loves your wallet.. but then again, that can be said of any online relationship or offline one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): dude. Stay with the 22 year old, the 15 year olds parents may like you but shes 15!! thats very young. you sound lik you have more of a connection with the first girl and she is the same age. There is no disadvantage of being with someone your own age, my boyfriend is the same age as me and we get on fine. MOST OF THE TIME. hope this helps :) x***MOD NOTE: Name calling is uncalled for no matter how you feel about the person. Trying to mask it is not going to make it any better.
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