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writes:My boyfriend and i participate in swing lifesome. We are not regulars but we have had 3 FFM, 3somes, Attempted about 8 MFM 3somes, not all sucessful, only to out of the 3 MFM have been successful, not all was done in them but some things happened that were pretty good. Our FFM 3somes have been somewhat successful as well. He has had a problem staying hard so has he had the opp to really have intercourse and work us both over, i have to say i am the only one who has gets that part of him in the 3some, but he has been pleasured to the max in other ways. He is upset with me because he has said he has given me 8 experiences and i have only given him 2 kind of real ones. He want s to do one with this one woman that i do not feel comfortable with having the encounter with. He makes me feel as if i owe him when i was never the one who asked for all of this in the first place. I sincerely do this for him. He enjoys seeing the guys go at me. I enjoy the women with him as well, but i do get quite jealous, and so does he but his comes out afterwards. What do you suggest i do? Give him the 3some with the woman he wants? What is your opinion on all of this?
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reader, tux +, writes (9 November 2009):
 Well i guess it's collateral damager when you are engaging in threesomes.. you need to realize that he may not have been comfortable with every guy you included in the MFM threesomes you have had. But if you are really that uncomfortable then you need to bring it up. But saying that you cannot include her just because you'd be too jealous may be a little too petty..
But then again, I'm not a pro at threesomes but see many problems that result from them.. I don't see the reward for such risks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2009): In my opinion if your boyfriend has any real respect for you he would not expect you do anything you didn't want to.
These experiences are for you both to share not just so he can have sexual experiences with just any other woman. It shouldn't be about either of you 'owing' anything to the other party but it should be about you both enjoying a shared experience.
He needs to understand that he cant just expect to go along with something because he wants to do it.
If you are not comfortable with a particular woman dont do it. I imagine if it were a different person you might like to do it so tell him that if its the case and make a compromise.
You could always tell him you would really like to do it with a particular man because you have heard how good he was, see how he reacts to that???
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reader, PC85  +, writes (9 November 2009):
I'd love to talk to you some more about your experiences. Me and my boyfriend are currently looking into our first threesome. its something we both want to do. I can understand you feeling jealous about what he wants to do with another woman. From what i see you are ok with having the threesome just not with that woman. he should understand that.
I'm happy for anything to happen my only stipulation is that the woman who joins us is someone we are both comfortable with and to me that is the most important thing. you should tell him that if he finds someone your comfortable with then its ok. He shouldn't force you into doing this with someone you don't want to. xx
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