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writes:I'm talking to an army guy who has post tramatic stress should I continue to talk to him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is treating it but your right about that thanks for the feed back honey pie
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Well, now you story makes more sense.
Dealing with PTSD is not an easy feat. Some soldiers DO come back from deployments with PTSD and if not treated can lead to serious anger issues, domestic violence, suicide, depression, stress, night terrors....
Is he in treatment? If he is still military MilitaryOneSource.com takes care of soldiers and family members for free, dealing with a huge range of problems. This is also an organization that do NOT report to the military.
If he is NOT seeing anyone about this problem I think the best you can do and let him down easily. This is not something that will go away over time. HE needs to deal with this.
If you did go live with him "untreated" it would be like living with a ticking bomb. It will go off sooner or later. One way or another.
I think giving up your whole life for a guy who is not emotionally ready for a relationship due to PTSD, is not a good idea. You will regret this. You may think you love this guy, but LOVE can not cure this. He needs therapy and counseling, but most of all he needs to be willing to get help.
Sorry for the not so positive out look, I have seen/heard this too many times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe been talking for two months but he just has an additude with me sometimes...so I don't know if that him or its the pts that's causing him to act that way...he just so much anger built up inside him and I wanted to be there for him but I feel he is pushing me away...I know he cares about me becdause they way he told me but I just don't know what to do...and he wants me to move with him to ga if we work out and that's a big step because I live in ny and I love my friends and family...but sometimes I think change is good...and I get scared because I make decent money in m job and I will risk losing that to...its overwhelming for me...but I just feel like he needs a strong girl by his side...I'm confused as you guys see...please give me advice thanks you
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Talking wont harm you. What else did you have in mind? If you are thinking marriage then maybe you are thinking a bit far ahead? Yes there can be extra difficulties with someone who has post traumatic stress syndrome, but that really depends on the person. In addition, everyone has some negative sides to themselves, and when you meet someone new it can often take a long time before you get to see their true selves.
I don't see this as a reason not to talk to him. Going into a relationship with him will demand that you are actually compatible, but him having this syndrome does not make him incompatible for everyone.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 July 2010):
Do you want to?
And does he want to talk to you?
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