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writes:I have been thinking about my ex boyfriend. He's in a really rough situation where he's living from place to place. Last nightm, he and his friend spent the night in the park because his friend mother kicked him out of the house. He tried calling his brother but no luck. My exes wife (which they are separated - in which she slept with his brother and found out at a family reunion from his cousin, also had an affair for the first year of their marriage) called him and he told her to call his brother to pick him up at the park. Why in the world would you tell her to call your brother after what she's done? Anyhow, I really feel sympatheic towards his situation. He wants me back but I feel it's because he's going thru a rough patch in his life where he needs comfortable from another woman. His wife knows he loves him and he tells her he still loves me. But the worse thing is that, I am starting to feel for him once again however, not as much as how we first met. Maybe I just feel sorry for him. I am going to see him this Friday...Should I continue on being his support system?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for your response.
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reader, Midge  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Support System or friend?
There is nothing wrong with being a good friend by listening to him and helping him through a rough patch, but be weary not to fall into the trap of him "wanting to be with you" for all the wrong reasons.
I was in a similar situation many years ago, and I found myself helping my ex because he was in a rough situation where his father was beating him up. His friends disowned him as soon as they found out, and he came to me.
Although I started having feelings for him again, I had to make sure that he wasnt using me for accomodation purposes, and it turned out my worries were correct. However, I was still a good friend and was there for him when he needed a shoulder to cry on, but not there for his sexual gratification.
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