A
female
age
26-29,
*rtypie
writes:I am in love with a friend of mine and he has told me once before he doesnt really see me as what I see him.He doesnt want to date; at first it hurt but I got over it after a while. The feeling is back and I cant shake it off as I used to worse I think he might not want anything to do with me if I continue being his friend. How should I go about it? Stop being his friend or continue and let him know how I feel about him? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 July 2016):
 You need to get out there and make new friends. Get new hobbies, join new clubs, you need to have friends in your life other than this one boy you have a crush on. You need to try harder, and be more positive about leading a happy life.
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 July 2016):
 Time to make new friends, honey.
...............................
A
female
reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (5 July 2016):
 That doesn't mean you stay, hopelessly infatuated; it means you leave, move on from him and make new friends :)
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 July 2016):
Right now? I think your best bet is to let him go, because you are unable to be a true friend as you have romantic notions about him and he has none of those for you.
Telling him again, is NOT going to change how he feels about you. HE KNOWS how you feel.
Sitting around "hoping" that he will realize what a great girl you are and then date you... it's unrealistic. You can't change how other people feel. You can change how YOU feel, it might take a little while but accepting that it's NOT going to happen with this guy is where you need to put your mind.
I wouldn't totally ignore him from now on, but I would "mentally" (as in, in your head) downgrade him to an acquaintance, someone you talk to now and then but don't really hang out with much.
Crushes will come and go, so will boys.
...............................
A
female
reader, Artypie +, writes (5 July 2016):
Artypie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlright but the thing is, he is my only friend. I have no other.
...............................
A
female
reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (5 July 2016):
"I am in love with a friend of mine" - I don't want to sound dismissive, but I personally think it's infatuation or a crush because (again, in my opinion) "in love" is mutual, as my definition is a love between 2 people (or more, if you're poly) and you're in it.
However, whether you're "in love with" or "infatuated with/crushing on" your friend, you can't move on while you're friends with him (as has been shown). You'll be stuck in limbo, pining after a friend who, unfortunately, doesn't feel the same way. I think it may be best to let the friendship go.
...............................
|
