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writes:This is my first time asking anything here, I am a 13 year old girl, going into 8th grade. I feel really awkward because I've been having kind of dirty thoughts about one of my closest friends who I've known for 3 years now, but I never felt attracted to her before. I already know I'm bisexual, so the fact that she's a girl isn't what concerns me, what makes me worried is the thoughts. Does anyone know if it's just because I'm a teen or is it something more?? I'm kinda stressed about this because I've been feeling more and more awkward around her as of late and I think she's noticed that I've been acting strangely. If anyone can give me some advice as to what to do, I'd gladly accept the help. Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (5 July 2016):
I agree with the previous posters. Just try really hard to think of something else when these thoughts come to mind. And one more thing: these thoughts aren’t dirty. It’s not wrong to feel whatever it is you feel so don’t give yourself a hard time about it. Just accept that these thoughts are there and try hard to distract yourself and think of something else.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 July 2016):
 I think it's pretty normal per se.
Hitting puberty opens up a LOT of "windows" in your mind, one of them being sex and sexuality. Just like you can't control your dreams for the most part, same goes for fantasies. But you CAN keep telling yourself : "enough of that" and then move on. It will take practice to nip them in the bud over and over.
And just because YOU have discovered that YOU are bi-sexual doesn't mean your female friend is, or other girls/boys you may crush on, so bear that in mind.
Don't feel awkward around her, it's not really HER fault.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (5 July 2016):
 Easier said than done, but turn them off. By that, I mean change your train of thought, every time it happens. Think of something else. With practice, the thoughts will fade.
There's nothing wrong with it because it's just hormones, but it would be easier to keep your friendship without those intrusive thoughts.
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