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writes:I met this guy at a concert and we instantly connected. He asked for my number and called me the next day.. we talked for hours each day and when we weren't talking we were texting. We just really got to know each other and it seemed like we had a real connection. We planned on a date which was to take place not that weekend but the next. As time went on, we gradually started not talking AS MUCH or as "intensely". Instead of like, 4 times a day.. it went to maybe once or twice a day. Which was fine.. Then our date rolled around and he got me flowers. We went to get coffee and then he took me to meet his family. This seemed a bit rushed for a first date but we had just really hit it off over the phone before the date that I didn't think too much of it. The date went well.. but the conversation seemed a little dry and it almost seemed like we didn't have much to say. This struck me really weird especially since we had such a connection over the phone and always had stuff to say then. I started to think that maybe he wasn't feeling it. So I, in turn, got a little stand offish. When I met his family though, his uncle said "nice to meet you! I've heard a lot of great things about you..which says something coming from this guy!" and pointed to my date. This sorta made me feel better and I didn't worry much of the not talking thing. That was Saturday. Sunday comes and HE calls me but I missed the call and had to return it about an hour later.. he wasn't very talkative and just said he was really tired (he's had to work a lot lately). I asked him if he wanted me to let him go and he said yeah but that he'd call me back after he took a nap.. Well.. I never heard back. That evening, I started to feel really weird because we used to talk soo much and he used to make it SO obvious that he was interested in me. Before the date HE said that after we go out that we should discuss things and asked me to keep an open mind for a potential relationship. So I just started feeling like I must have done something wrong during our date. I figured since he was so bold about things before that I could, in a sense, be bold too and ask him about it. I texted him and told him I was sensing him loosing interest..and that that was fine but I just sorta wanted to get on the same page and for him to let me know when he could. Well.. I never heard back from him!! It all was so bizarre. Then.. last night (2 nights after I sent him the text), I got onto my Facebook. Right when I signed in, I get a Facebook chat from him that said "Hey stranger!" and asked me how I was. I was completely dumbfounded because at that point I figured he wasn't feeling it and was ignoring me. He acted like nothing had happened. I asked him if he had gotten my text Sunday night. He said "no I don't think so." and then said "Oh wait.. yeah I did. I'm so sorry.. I was a sleep when you sent it and have just been really busy since and forgot". To me, that seemed weird but whatever.. I asked him to tell me where he stood and he said that he felt like our date went good but that he felt like we didn't have anything to talk about and that he felt like he was having to pry to get me to talk. He said I seemed really shy as well. I told him I was just tired (I had only gotten 8 hrs of sleep in that 48 hours) and that I was just feeling HE wasn't into it so I felt stand-offish. Also, that I am shy. Then we just discussed that and I asked if he wanted to scratch everything or what he wanted to do? And he said he thinks we should continue to see how things go if I wanted to.. and then asked what I thought. I agreed and then we both said bye and signed off. Today comes and he never contacted me and so I decided to text him to say "have a good day!" and he responded with a "ya thanks, you too!" and that's all I've heard from him. Sorry this is so long. I just needed to give background info.. my question is.. should I continue to see where things go? Or is he not into it? If he isn't why did he even Facebook me or call me after the date? But, I also don't like that he's not contacting me. What do you guys think?
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (21 October 2009):
 Wow...you just met the guy...try not to overwhelm him. Take it easy. There's no need to rush. Relax and see where it goes. If you feel like he is not interested then break it off. But wait a while and let things take place. Give him a chance to contact you. Don't call or text him til he does first. If he ignores you for like a week then you know he's not interested.
Good Luck!
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