A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, when i was 16 i started talking to one of my friends best friends. It came out of the blue and a couple months after i got out of a realtionship with my ex. we decided to take things slow since i didnt want to rush into anything new. we talked on the phone all night, he was there for me when i needed him, and basically i fell for him hard and fast. after 5 months of talking i decided i was going to tell him how i felt and called him up and said "you know i have really strong feelings for you, i want to take this further but i just want to know how you feel" he replied saying that he had to think about it and he'll call me back....two days later i get a phone call from him saying he thinks of me as a bestfriend. i accepted it even though i was crushed and we remained friends. i finally got over him a couple months after that and one day he tells me that he has feelings for me now and he wants to know if i can give him a second chance. i gave him that chance we talked for another couple months taking it slow and then new years eve 2008 after the ball dropped he told me he loved me. i knew then that he was worth it. the next day he tells me he woke up next to a different girl! and he didnt know who she was....after that we just kept it as friends and never got together but would occasionally act like we were. i talked to him everyday whether it was texting or calling or seeing him in person. i finally told him i loved him and i wanted to be with him and he left me hanging but continued playing games with me for example, one minute he was the guy i wanted to be with the next he didnt know what he wanted. i never brought up the subject again. last year in sept my best friend and his best friend started dating..... now he doesnt like my best friend because she has said i deserved better. so he got into a huge arguement with his bestfriend told him what it was about (which would be my best friend saying things to make me not be with him, which isnt true) and got me involved into the situation. i didnt know how he felt about everything because hes always been so closed about his emotions so this was the first i was hearing how he felt about us not being together. anyways long story short i called him the day i found out about everything that was going on...explained to him how my bestfriend, out of all the people he shouldnt like, was probably one of the only people who wanted us to be together and hes the one who never told me how he felt and i told him how hurt i was that i have to find out this way. he hung up on me i didnt hear from him for a week and then i texted him asking if everything is ok he told me to leave him alone n stop texting and calling him. that was 4 months ago. now everyone is cool again with him and i am the only person who isnt. i tried to get in contact with him to try to leave the past in the past but he hasnt responded to me. he is also close with my best friend now. my question is should I contact him and figure things out or let him contact me first when hes ready? or should i just get over it? im still in love with him and i dont know what to do..
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reader, CaliMoore  +, writes (2 March 2010):
 You said your best female friend is now close with him, and once dated him - but she was one of the few people who actually wanted you and him to get together?? - correct me if im wrong but that doesnt sound like much of a friend!
If for some reason your still friends with her and shes close to him, talk to her about him and get her to mention you and find out if hes calmed down about it, and if hes willing to be friends again. After all, you didnt do anything wrong.
Let me know how you get on! good luck :) x
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