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writes:Should I consider going to the same college/sixth form as my boyfriend next year?Okay so me and him have been going out a year exactly, we love each other to bits. But now I'm starting to see ahead, I want to be with him for a long time yet, and I'm pretty sure he feels the same. But next year we change schools, do I consider trying to go to the same school as him as long as it still suits me or do I not and just try and see each other at weekends? Because we are both too young to drive yet, it might be hard to see each other as much. At the moment we are practically inseparable in the school we are in now, will being in different schools strain our relationship? How could I see him more, and try and keep the relationship going, also I am quite paranoid about him and other girls, I know he wouldn't do anything to hurt me ever, but when surrounded every day by other girls when I'm not there, will he be swayed away from me? Any opinions, i'll be great full! Thank you x Reply to this Question
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (17 April 2013):
I really think the best thing is for you to both find the best college for each of you. Maybe compromise a little bit so you dont end up at opposite ends of the country. Most relationships dont survive seperation but if you want it to yours will. You have the web to keep in contact, and sbove all not being together all the time will give you a chance to study. Buses are cheap enough for you to visit each other every few weeks. Theres nothing like being apart to make it fun to see each other again. You both have to be strong and promise each other to study hard when you are apart so you can afford to have good time together when you meet up, yes the goodbyes are tough, but you will manage . And above all avoid the brainless party crowd every college has. This is bad for everything.I know it feels daunting but in fact the time goes quickly, study hard and theholidays soon come around. The hardest thing is when you miss each other, going out for a few drinks then will make it very easy to hook up with anyone as a substitute, you would really regret this and wish you had just worked on your assignments like all the people that will get the best grades. One last thing, promise to write to each other, writing is great on paper or email (not sms or random facebook comments). It makes you feel close even though you are apart and if you feel lonely you can reread and remember how lucky you are to have someone who cares about you. Good luck and lots of fun.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 April 2013):
 Your number one priority has to be your education, because your education is going to set you up for life and determine your future happiness. Boyfriends come and go, your education will stay with you for life.
So choose the 6th form that is the BEST place to study - the one with the best teachers, best results (i.e. previous students A Level grades) and best environment for you to learn in. If that so happnens to be where your boyfriend is going, then great - but make sure you choose the college/6th form for the right reasons, not just so you can see this boy more often.
If you decide that there is a different college/6th form that would be more suited to your educational requirements, and your boyfriend wont be there - then seeing each other at weekends will be fine. You will both be very busy with A levels anyway, so you will need the week nights to study and get your work done to free up your weekends. And perhaps you can speak to your parents and ask if they would mind driving you to his house one night a week - I'm sure they wont mind once a week, my parents used to do it 3 or 4 times a week for me so once a week wont be too much too ask of them. He could ask his parents as well, so then you could see each other twice during the week as well if your parents agree to it.
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