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writes:Hello, I've been dating this girl for 4 months now but she constantly tries to make me jealous, and tries to get a reaction out of me. For the past 2 months, wherever we are she'll make a remark of some sort saying, "Oh, check out that guy over there... Oh, hes hot... There were a bunch of cute guys in my class today... etc" then turn back around and tries to see what I'll do. In return I usually just play it off and pretend like it doesn't bother me. But lately it has become annoying, and I'm really sick of it. I don't want to break up with her, since she does have a lot of qualities I love. So should I confront her about it? Or should I just continue to deal with it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2010): Thanks for all of your responses. She is 17, and is my girlfriend. I just recently confronted her about making me jealous, and she told me that "it was her way of checking to see if I still liked her" which I kind of feel a little bit angry about because she should know that I do love her and care for her and I would've expected her to see that with all of the things that I do for her. But we did try and resolve the issue and both agreed we'd both stop playing immature games with each other but I haven't seen any change from her, and any signs that shes even remotely trying to stop.
But it has only been 3 days, and I know it takes time. So I will see what happens within the next week and if things haven't progressed I'm going to move on.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 If you're serious about the relationship, you should confront her over it. This type of behaviour she's displaying is insensitive. Sometimes people play the silly make-them-jealous game because they think it will make their partner more interested in them. But I don't think it has its place in a healthy relationship. Tell her how you feel about it, and if she doesn't modify her behaviour, then she doesn't seem like a very considerate person and you'll really have to ask yourself if you still want to be with her.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (24 January 2010):
 Hmm, talk to her or stay annoyed in silence...hard choice, eh?
Seriously, talk to her about it. Her reaction will tell you if she's too immature for a relationship. If she plays it off, she's not the right girl for you. Same goes if she agrees with you but keeps on doing it.
Good luck.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (24 January 2010):
Well I would only assume that she continues to try to make you jealous after 4-months of DATING because she's still not your girlfriend? If you you're still not "official" then you need to make it that way, because either she's extremely immature and stupid, or she's doing it to get a reaction out of you so you'll quit being so casual about things. If you two are actually boyfriend and girlfriend, then yes, tell her she's being rude and annoying.
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