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writes: I'm dealing with a really hard problem right now. I'm graduating with my AA this fall and moving to attend UF. I'm pursuing my bachelors in psychology, and hopefully attending medical school after that. UF is supposed to be the best university in the state, and I figure if I graduate from there, I could find it easier to get into other smaller universities' medical schools. My fiance on the other hand, has all his opportunities down here in Boca. His stepfather has a company to which he has the chance to internship and later get a well paying job after graduating with his bachelors. The college down here has a degree I can get, and I wouldn't have to get an apartment, but I feel my best chance is up in Gainesville. (Oh and btw if I did move he does happen to have a place he can stay at in Orlando, and go to school at UCF) I'm in such a hard position, cause on one hand, I feel like he shouldn't give up his dreams and goals to move, and I shouldn't have to give up on mine. Not sure if we can handle a LDR. Anyone have any advice for us??
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 June 2011):
 LDRs require compromise.. someone has to move to make it work
BUT if you guys are looking at education issues, then the LDR would be temporary...
I am going to answer you like a mom... not like someone in love in an LDR (I'm both I'm just going to wear my mom hat on this one)
DO NOT give up your dream to do what you want for the moment.
IF you and BF are meant to be you will survive the LDR period of your relationship and in the long run be together... IF you are not meant to be and you give up your dream you may live to regret it when you are old and my age....
LDRs are hard but if you guys have a finite time to be apart and you can stay communicative and honest and open you have a great chance... how often would you guys be able to see each other.
There is no way I could have done an LDR and be in school... I can barely handle one now and we see each other nearly every weekend... would your studies be able to handle that?
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (17 June 2011):
 The only advice I can give you is this: you can't compromise your dreams, if you think your bf is the one, the most you guys can do is work on a plan of compromise. Think and plan carefully. UF is a huge school and a huge opportunity. My two friends are Gators and they worked HARD for it. If your bf already has a job waiting for him-great! But, is that his dream? If your goals clash, it can't work and so have both of you eventually resenting and blaming each other for failed dreams. If it is meant to be, it will be. Have you talked things over with him? Is he supportive?
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