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writes:I am in a big dilemma now. i have huge aspiration since i saw my cousins getting married and movin to US . i also want to pursue my career in US and want to settle there so i am giving my GRE in nov.Even my sister who is married is planning to move there out soon. Recently i met a guy in my office and we feel in love with each other. We have been in relationship since 6 months. however when i got to know him i came to know he is a mommas boy. No matter what he wont settle in US , he told me clearly when i asked him. Now i am really confused on what to do? why should i sacrifice my dreams and why should he sacrifice his love for his mom and family? right. what should i do. Plus m 23 and m parents are telling me to atleast get engaged to a guy who is settled in US. Please help At what i should do and chose?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2015): Thank you dear. i really value your suggestion and will stick to it :)
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reader, Tottochan +, writes (16 August 2015):
Namaste,
I would suggest that you go ahead with what you had planned for - that is, your career.
If you do settle down with this guy, then your entire life, you will feel like you settled for less, and that might get to be a contentious issue.
So if going abroad was your goal, then stick to it, and do everything you can to fulfill your dreams. I am sure you will find many young men that have similar aspirations as yourself, with whom it'll be easier to settle down with.
Finally, I'd just like to say that it was good that you two spoke about your future plans beforehand itself, because such things, like having children, or your country of residence could end up being really big issues in the future if you both have different views on the same subject.
Best of luck!
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reader, Tottochan +, writes (16 August 2015):
Namaste,
I would suggest that you go ahead with what you had planned for - that is, your career.
If you do settle down with this guy, then your entire life, you will feel like you settled for less, and that might get to be a contentious issue.
So if going abroad was your goal, then stick to it, and do everything you can to fulfill your dreams. I am sure you will find many young men that have similar aspirations as yourself, with whom it'll be easier to settle down with.
Finally, I'd just like to say that it was good that you two spoke about your future plans beforehand itself, because such things, like having children, or your country of residence could end up being really big issues in the future if you both have different views on the same subject.
Best of luck!
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