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writes:I don't think I'm over my ex.. About a year ago my friend, at the time, and I got together. Everything was perfect I was as happy as can be. Thing is he's 5years older than me and at the time I was 16. My parents didn't like the idea at all and this whole jumble of a mess was created. After that I moved with my dad about 6hours away. WE still talked and stood strong together. Only about a month or so after being here he called it off, said he couldn't handle it. We talked for a while after but it soon stopped after that. I tried to move on and eventually got with this other guy. He is emotionaly everything I need, well needed. Anywho I got a message from my ex around new years and we've been talking since then. All my feelings came back and had me realize that I really miss him. I feel bad cause I really care about this guy and just a few days ago he told me he loves me.. My ex told me when we were going out that he loved me and I asked him if he still did and he stood quiet. If I had to choose ..I would pick my ex. Does that make me bad? He wants to try things out when/if I move back. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Am I being selfish?
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reader, LoveMeNena +, writes (25 January 2012):
LoveMeNena is verified as being by the original poster of the question To "PerhapsNot" I'm turning 18 in june, I was 16 when we had first started dating. I have a job and have been saving, I'm near 3grand now so I think it's safe to say I have the financial part covered. We have talked on the phone, skyped, you name it. It was just overwhelming that I wasn't a short drive away. He seems pretty serious now about our relationship. The only reason he hasn't tried to contact me is cause I deleted him from my face book when I went out with another. Now this current guy is great, he really is a genuin guy.. but my heart seeks the attention of my ex. There's no hidding that. Thank you all for the advice I couldn't appreciate it more. I guess I'm going to take a risk.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (24 January 2012):
 He wants to try things out when/if I move back.
So, let's look at that logistically for a moment. Your dad moved, so by default, you moved with him. You're 6 hours away from your ex and the communication you've had with him have been via text. Why aren't you talking on the phone, and why isn't he coming to visit you, if he wants you back? Just curious.
And what's with the "when/if I move back" stipulation? So if you don't move back, he won't be with you? How will you move back by yourself if you're 16? You don't have the money to pay for an apartment, utilities, and food. How will this work?
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (24 January 2012):
 Ex's are usually ex's for a reason!!! Sometimes looking back we wonder what could of bn? But also a year apart is a long time and alot could of changed. Think carefully before going back.. I have a look forward - cut your losses type of attitude...but only you know your heart... so good luck and hope you make the right decision! xx
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