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writes: I am out on a holiday without my boyfriend of a year and a half. I met another man that I really like and know he likes me too. I can't stop thinking about this other man. I am thinking about cheating one my boyfriend as he will never know. I can't pick between the two. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): I have a boyfried of 2 and a half months and I cheat on him weekly with my other man who Iv been with now for a year, I love them both and my boyfriend doesnt know.... I cant give up my man because hes sooooooooooooo good in bed.... and my boyfriend sucks in bed,... so thats why I cheat.girls can get away with just about anything. Its up to you and your gut to make a decision,... guts never lie ;)3 pimpin
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): I say go for it. I have often fantasized about my girlfriend being with another man and it is an absolute turn on. Enjoy life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): don't do it if you love your boyfriend,he will find out and there is no going back once you do. and think how you would feel,if you even thought he did it to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2006): Life is too short to beat around the bush. Only you can make the choice as long as you are happy in life then go with what ever your heart is telling you to do. i have cheeted before and experianced the guilt you feel after and believe me it ent nice but life is about experencing every opportunaty it thoughs your way. I say go through with it and then you will know your truce feelings for your BF Good Luck. and remember LIVE LIFE TO THE FULL and by happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2005): duh ,love the one your with. If your not happy maybe you should not be in a relationship to begin with. No sypathy here ,i'm a man that has never cheated . i think it's the way it should be .love'em or leave'em ,its that simple.break ups are always bad so just be honest ,what the hell it can't hurt any worse. lying is just drama waiting to happen. good luck!!!!!!!
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reader, Belle +, writes (11 November 2005):
hmm as a serial cheat .. I probably would... but it doesn't make me proud!What I usually find is that you end up in a mess of lies! and the right at the begining you'd identified the reason why you wanted to cheat - that the relationship you are in just isn't where you want to be. The fact I've realised too many times in the middle of it all is that if I really cared about my boyfriend then I wouldnt' be doing this to him, whether he found out or not. And when I've had boyfriends that I've truly loved, and wanted to be with from the bottom of my heart I've looked at my potential cheat, and thought ... I can't be with my man if I kiss this guy, and manage to walk away so easily!and I think that's what it is all about really, if you really love someone you just don't seem to have those problems!Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): i think you should not cheat on your boyfriend you two love eachother and don't go and betray (sorry not a good speller) him just because your on a trip without him
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2005): Trust and honesty are at the core of every relationship. When you cheat on your mate you are really cheating on your own moral values. Break up with your boyfriend before you decide to have a rumble in the sack with this other guy. You'll thank yourself in the morning.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (29 September 2005):
 You're thinking of cheating you say??!!! How bizzare!! Most of the time its so hard trying to get people to admit they have thoughts of cheating when they clearly do, but in your case, you;re blatantly honest about it arent you?!! Doesnt strike me as you've even laid yourself on a slightest amount of guilt trip about thinking about this, let alone trying to talk yourself out of it. Yea, sure...you think hes never gonna find out!! Maybe so, but have you ever heard of karma? Perhaps not! but whatever it is, lets face it, if you're having these thoughts about cheating on your boyfriend now and not even feeling guilty about it, the relationship you guys are having aint that strong to begin with, so im sure somehow somewhere in his heart, he's probably asking the same questions you are asking now!!
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reader, grasshopper +, writes (29 September 2005):
There's almost a line of canned answers to this one, all which say do it after you've dumped the partner, or don't do it at all. I'll be slightly different :)
By getting as far as having to ask aloud if you should or shouldn't indicates that you're curious about life outside your boyfriend. That's OK, there's nothing wrong with that. These tempations always come our way, and sometimes I wonder if the regularity of them is "fate" trying to have a little word!
Sometimes we need to get the curiority "bug" out of our system, sometimes it's our hearts telling us that we need to change - so my advice to you would be to follow your instinct. Whichever path you choose, I doubt they will be without problems. If you don't - you'll be curious. If you do, you'll probably go through a difficult patch in your life. Just remember to respect the feelings of others, and be honest with everyone involved. They always find out in the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2005): This has got to be the most stupid question ever. It shows alot about the kind of person you are. The thought of doing something like this behind his back is straighout coldhearted. Karma will get back at you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2005): if you're considering cheating, you should at least leave your boyfriend before.
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (28 September 2005):
 I wouldn't, if I were you. Your boyfriend may not know or find out the decision you make, but you will. If you cheated on him, wouldn't you care? Is your relationship not worth being faithful for? You may like someone else, but if you love your boyfriend, you should fight these feelings and let go of them. You can ruin what you and your boyfriend have if you go about cheating on him.
Wouldn't this bother you at all? Knowing that you had intimate relations with someone else other than who you're in a relationship with? If your relationship isn't worth it, get rid of your boyfriend then be with this other man.
Just put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes for a minute. How would you feel if he was away from you and met someone and cheated on you with her, just because you wouldn't find out? Wouldn't that hurt you at all? If you would care, then you should think about his feelings also. That's why it's a relationship, you're supposed to only want to be with YOUR man, not others also.
But if this is what you want, then no one can stop you. I'm just saying I wouldn't. Think about it really hard and if it's worth it or not. It's really up to you. No one can make decisions for you. Good luck in what choice you make. Hopefully it's a good one:)
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