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writes:I am 42 just divorced. I met this man 18 years older than me and we get on well. He helps me to get through my divorce when I was totally lost. I know I need someone there to ease my pain. I cant think of anything else at that time but stick to him for comfort. Who know what happen? We've been together for 8 months now. We are just so different. I can sit down and enjoy the peace with him at home but he cant go out and enjoy a night out with me in the pub. Should I change myself to suit him? Please help.
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reader, samohir  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 Why to change? You re as You are ...i dont think thats solution..More useful will be to find some "middle ground" b-ween sitting home and going to pubs, if possible.
so try to speak and find it some compromise b-ween his desires and ur desires.
The future decision on how You would like to live is Yours Privileged right only!
Good Luck
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reader, flower girl +, writes (17 November 2007):
 Hi,
It sounds very much as though since your divorce you have not had any time to yourself, which i think is what you need just so you can find yourself again.
You have been in a marriage for however many years and you are used to doing things in a certain way with a certain person and now that has all changed, i most certainly don't think you should change yourself and what you enjoy doing just because the person you are with now does not enjoy the same things, there has to be give and take but you really can't change yourself completely as you will lose your personality and that at the end of the day is what attracted him to you in the first place.
Take care.xx.
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