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writes:Well..typical I like two guys problem =[This is just so hard man, and there's like no one to talk to because everyone says I should just forget about the other guy because I have a boyfriend..WHOLE STORY:Boyfriend(let's call him Joe,we've never attended the same school and I switched schools recently) of ten months cheated a while ago..I never had the chance to take revenge...when it came along I took it..I kissed a guy from school(calling him Bob,from my new school), problem is..I've developed feelings for Bob and he is head over heels in LIKE with me.(yes because I know we're too young for love ^_^)Last night I was made to choose between the two..I chose my boyfriend,Joe...because I doubt if me and Bob hooked up, we'd last very long =[Anyways so when Bob went home he messaged me asking why I didn't pick him over Joe. I explained why and he began to cry and accuse me of just using him..well it did start out that way but I startedd liking him =[He changed a lot for me and gave up a lot..and I feel really bad about not choosing him but I know I would be lost without Joe. oh and because Joe got a tattoo of my name, Bob felt that was the reason I chose Joe. He decided to engrave my name on his leg...couple hours later he poured ink on it..he lost all his friends too..and I messed up his whole life..I told him he needs to move on..I'm letting him and I'm really sorry, but he just keeps saying he can't,he loves me too much.And yes, I know he doesn't love me its only infatuation...But then there's that part of me that doesn't want him to move on..It's almost like I won't be able to stand seeing him with another girl..I know I shouldn't have lead him on so long but I just liked him so much...and I assumed he knew I wouldn't leave Joe.Should I change my decision? (no, it isn't too late)What to do? -Soooo Confused -.-PS. A lot of people from school hate me now for what I've done to Bob =[
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reader, xDiamondx +, writes (5 July 2010):
xDiamondx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Wow..Guys..thanks :)
but I still don't know man =[ I've gotten so attached to Joe...and I don't see myself with Bob long term..and if i stay single for a little while..I'll be so bored.. lol
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reader, Odds  +, writes (5 July 2010):
 Bob has to accept that some relationships don't work out. You didn't know he would get so infatuated when you used him, so you are only partly to blame. In fact, leaving a guy with those sorts of issues is a *good decision*. That relationship would have been a train wreck.The real issue is that you went back to the guy who cheated on you. He will do it again, probably soon. At your age, the same qualities that make you like Joe are those which enable him to cheat.You ought to leave both guys, be single for a while, and cut off contact. Bob will eventually figure things out, and Joe will have no problem finding a new girl. The best thing for you would be to stay single for a while, get comfortable with it, and then seek out a new boyfriend. You need to get comfortable seeing ex-boyfriends with new girls - it's a fact of life.As for the people who hate you? Forget them. Your friends will stick by you, even if it takes a while for them to get over the story. You did something wrong, but Bob is the one who chose to react the way he did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): If I'd be you I'd leave Joe because he's cheated on you (if i understood that correctly) and start a new life with Bob. First he is at your school and Joe is far away, second he loves you and you do love/like him lots too, third the people will like you again at your school which I guess is a good point. I know how it is when people start to hate some1 for something she/he's done to some1 else. I my bf would cheat on me I would leave him straight away even if he is my soulmate (which he is. I'm only 16 but I know he is the one and belive me it can be real love in our young age).
Hope I could help.
Oxana x
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (5 July 2010):
 I think you need to make the decision, not peer pressure from anyone else at your school. Its not your fault that Joe decided to tattoo your name on himself, so don't use that as your deal breaker.
But, I do think that you should choose the one you care most about, that you have the most fun with, have better chemistry with,and can see yourself in the long run with.
yes, you're young, but that stuff is still important.
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