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writes:Hi. Bit of advise needed here please! Been chatting to a guy online this past week, and we are meeting for a date tomorrow. We have both made no secret of the fact we are both dating others at the moment, and he went on a date last night. I playfully asked if he spent the night with her, and it was clear that he did. He said he felt awkward as he had been talking to me so much, I reassured him that we haven't even met! And until people meet a couple of times and de ide together to be exclusive, he is single to do as he pleases.I have to be honest and say I feel odd now and a bit different towards him! Should I cancel? Or am I overreacting? I cant help but wonder what the deal is with them two now- what her expectation is- should I ask him ot just ho for dinner and see at this stage?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2016): Hi. OP here- went on the date, and he wasn't my type at all in the end! So issue closed! Thanks for the advise- fair play to him, hes having another date with the girl and is hopeful of something! So I wish him all the best!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 April 2016):
 Okay well the thing is you have only been chatting to him for a week and not even met yet so I guess the choice is yours really if you want to give him a shot or not. You both are at very early stages and it is okay to go on dates and see how it works out. Now he spent the night with his date but that does not mean she expects anything, it could have been that they hooked up for a bit of fun or that it is more serious, if it annoys you maybe ask him what does his other date expect from him and see what he says? If him sleeping around casually is a big no no for you well then it is okay to cancel the date, its what you want at the end of the day that counts.
You are not over reacting if you cancel, or are you doing something wrong if you go, he is single at the end of the day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2016): Listen to this guy. He is telling you about who he is and how he behaves. Now hes told you how does it make you feel? He sounds like a sleaze ball to me. Be glad that he is an open book and you havent had the shock of discovering the type of guy he is after falling for him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 April 2016):
 I think it's ONE thing to date multiple people, (meaning go out ON dates )- but a whole other thing to sleep with more than one person. Or sleep with one person and also dating others... That would be a no-go for me.
I would not want to date a guy who goes home with another woman. I think when a couple starts dating and get to the point of sex, they OUGHT to be exclusive.
I would honestly feel like this guy sees women as cars at the local car-dealer and he takes them out for a test drive to see whom he wants to focus on... No thanks.
Take yourself for an example, would you sleep with ONE guy and still go out on date with others? Or not?
I would listen to that gut reaction.
Sure he doesn't OWE you to not sleep with anyone else, but I DO think he is is looking for something serious, he won't be sleeping with just ANY woman he can, while still dating others.
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