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*endra0589
writes:Recently I have been getting this strong urge to call the guy that I can't seem to get over. He was my first and unfortunately he did me wrong even though we weren't in a relationship. He knew I wanted to be with him but once we had sex it all changed. When I had sex with him the second time he basically told me he didn't want to deal with me anymore. This has been about a month and a half ago. I tried calling him the day after but he didn't want to talk to me. I texted and done everything in my power to get him to talk to me. After a while reality hit me and I felt like a fool for chasing someone that wasn't interested in me. I haven't called or texted him in a month even though I think about him all the time.I got a restricted call last night and it sounded like him on the other end. I said Hello and he said "Whats up" I replied "WHo is this" then they hung up. I know I'm not insane it sounded like him. I want to call him so bad but I've been doing good with leaving him alone as I'm sure he wants. Everytime I call or text and he doesn't respond it leaves me dissapointed. What should I do? It just seems like I can't get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): I agree with everyone else on this one. This guy sounds like bad news for sure, I don't know how the two of you got the point of having sex in the first place, not being in a relationship but obviously this guy has other intentions, find yourself a nice guy and get away from that guy. And don't call him, if anything, he'll end up just hurting you more then he already has and thats the last thing you need in your position. Also if I where you, I would definitely establish at least a confirmed relationship before you have sex with someone.
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reader, blueays +, writes (23 November 2009):
'He was my first ... though we weren't in a relationship.'
Of course, you wanted your first to be special. But, you weren't in a relationship then, and still aren't now. So he isn't worth pursuing.
If you can build a solid relationship with someone, then sex ought to deepen it, instead of provoking the uncaring reaction of your first lover.
We all make mistakes. Don't criticize or worry yourself too much, dear. Better luck next time around.
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