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anonymous
writes:Hello,Following on from the question about the piece of music I wrote for the girl I'm meeting Freshers' week and have flirted a bit with (should have mentioned it was an instrumental).We actually have agreed to meet before then. Next week sometime - I suggested we have lunch or go for a drink (she is already at the place where the uni is and I'm going to go there - only a couple of hours away - I might have gone anyway but maybe it is an excuse just to meet her and see how we get on).Obviously I will be a complete gentleman, as always, and treat her with respect. Not sure how she is going to react when she meets me due to my being overweight (I am currently trying to lose weight and have been quite successful and my family have noticed some difference already) but there isn't anything I can do about that. Maybe make a humorous comment on my next email.Am I doing the right thing to have suggested this even though we would have met two weeks later anyway? Any advice? Should I maybe buy some flowers or anything (obviously not anything like roses lol)? I think that might be too direct.And if we do get along would she decide on me right away or would it take another meeting? Also, if we do get along what next? And, has the music (it is instrumental no lyrics just for clarity) helped her decide already?
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reader, lexilou +, writes (3 September 2008):
 Looks and weight arent everything and this girl already likes your personality so wont automatically judge you by looks as she feels that connection to start with. The music is enough for now, forget the flowers. Be a gentleman and above all avoid coming on too strong. Just be yourself and hopefully it will all work out x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): I would agree with everything Big Sis has written. I wouldn't worry about mentioning your weight. If this girl is as nice as you say, I'm sure she will be more interested in your personality. And if not, then she is too shallow and you deserve better!
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reader, BigSis +, writes (3 September 2008):
 If she's agreed to meet you, then you must be doing something right. Personally speaking, to me, flowers mean a lot. I think it's a lovely gesture. My heart melts whenever I receive flowers, and I agree with you in as much as maybe not roses, not just yet anyway ~ as they are a symbol of love, and I reckon you'd be pushing it a bit, for now. If you go to your local supermarket, they have bouquet's already made up, and there are some really beautiful flowers out at the moment. Just a suggestion, I've seen some with cut sunflowers, and they particularly brighten up any bouquet and they keep for quite a while.......trust me ... I'm a florist.: )I can't answer with regards to the music, as I wouldn't have a clue what kind of stuff she's into.If you do get along, then I can't see any reason why she wouldn't want to see you again, but don't expect too much at this meeting. You're just going to have to play it by ear and see how it goes. Be yourself, act the way you would around your family and don't fake anything. Be your natural self.I wish you the very best of luck, and please let us know how it went.BigSisxXx
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