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writes:Hi I'm 15 and have been with a girl for about 3 years on and off... she has cheated on me twice, and both times we broke up and be a part for 5 or 6 months then she would get bored with the other guys and come back... she hurt me when she did these things but I think mostly I've stayed with her because I am scared to be alone. Now I am starting at a new high school and she's going to a different one so we won't see each other as much. I know it's wrong but part of me is excited that I might meet someone new in high school. But I don't want to break up with her because... we've been together for nearly 3 years and I've never been with anyone else. I lost my virginity to her a few months ago (she talked me into it because I think she had sex with one of the other guys). It was ok but wasn't what I expected I was kind of let down. We've had sex a total of probably 8 or 9 times and it hasn't gotten much better. I'm feeling a bit weird... like... do I break up with her? Or do I take a risk and be single for the first time? What if I don't find anyone else? I'm scared and confused... any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): Dont worry it has happened to me before and i still havent the right boy for me yet. Just take time and get use to that school and make new friends.
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reader, Replacement +, writes (25 August 2008):
 You didn't once give any reason why you love her, or like her. Hell, you didn't even mention enjoying her company. All you said was that you were afraid of being alone. And this is no foundation for a relationship. At your age you SHOULD be out meeting new people, not clinging to a junior high relationship with a girl who treats you like garbage. Branch out, cut it off and see what else is out there.
Oh, and sex will get better... it usually is mediocre at your age , but perhaps it will improve when you meet the right girl. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): What is so wrong with being single. It will give you a breather and allow you to reflect on what kind of girl really deserves your attention.
Your girlfriend is slutty and insecure, and not to be trusted, she was probably sexually abused as a child. Also a girl like her will eventually either get a STD, AIDS, or pregnant. Do you want to be a part of that?
Break off with her wish her well and move on. When you get to your new school focus on your studies and college. Sex before marriage is a recipe for DIS-aster. Use your head.
God Bless
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