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writes:Hi I was for a week on vacation with a girlfriend to Italy. First days my boyfriend texted me said he missed me and asked me how I was doing. When I said that I met French and Polish guys and was going out with them that night he starting asking me weird questions, well he probably got jealous. I also said they were flirting with me but nothing more. I even said that the Polish one didn't even try to flirt 'yet' but still he got jealous. Well when he texted me I only answered 6 hours later because I was on a trip with these friends it was really fun. I said next day that I'm going out again and he replied that he won't see me the weekend when I come back and he said that he'll go to a party of a girlfriend of his. Should I trust him or not? Why is he so jealous? Should I break up with him?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 makes sense to me... you told him what you told him to test his love.
these things always backfire on us..
yeah it feels crummy when he does to you what you did to him doesn't it?
he's jealous because of what you told him.
should you break up with him? why? because he responded in an appropriate manner?
maybe you should break up with him.. maybe you are not ready to have an adult relationship with someone.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 September 2011):
He's jealous because you made him jealous. And now you're thinking of breaking up with him, even though you are the entire cause if this?
Let me put it another way - are you sure you actually want to be with this guy because you love and respect him? Or are you looking for a way to dump him?
Because if my girlfriend told me whilst she was in another country that men were flirting with her, and that she was going out with them, I'd be pretty angry and I wouldn't exactly be trusting of her. I'd also assume that she was trying to make me jealous, in which case I'd probably decide to reassess the relationship. Or I'd assume she was looking for a way to cheat/way to end the relationship and I'd just dump her.
You've just screwed up your relationship big time because of this. So decide whether you want him in your life because you love and respect him, in which case say you're sorry and never do something as uncaring and immature as this. Or, take a real good look at your relationship and decide whether you're just looking for a way out.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 September 2011):
He's jealous because you made him jealous. And now you're thinking of breaking up with him, even though you are the entire cause if this?
Let me put it another way - are you sure you actually want to be with this guy because you love and respect him? Or are you looking for a way to dump him?
Because if my girlfriend told me whilst she was in another country that men were flirting with her, and that she was going out with them, I'd be pretty angry and I wouldn't exactly be trusting of her. I'd also assume that she was trying to make me jealous, in which case I'd probably decide to reassess the relationship. Or I'd assume she was looking for a way to cheat/way to end the relationship and I'd just dump her.
You've just screwed up your relationship big time because of this. So decide whether you want him in your life because you love and respect him, in which case say you're sorry and never do something as uncaring and immature as this. Or, take a real good look at your relationship and decide whether you're just looking for a way out.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (23 September 2011):
 It's obvious you were trying to make him jealous purposely, otherwise you wouldn't have have bothered to tell him those men were flirting with you. How would you have felt if he was thousands of miles away on vacation and told you a bunch of girls were flirting with him? I'm sure you wouldn't be too happy about it either.
If you're going to play games like this you should at least be prepared for the consequences. He has every right to be upset, you've made him doubt his trust in you. You can't abuse someone's emotions for a quick ego boost and expect a positive reaction, these are the mind games girls in high school play. If you want to keep your boyfriend you'll have to grow up a bit, assure him you're not going to leave him and try to put his mind at ease.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): I hope your boyfriend has a great weekend without you. If you play games like this then obviously he will react,thats what you wanted him to do isnt it
Imagine if he had been the one who was away and sending you texts saying he had met some girls/flirted etc etc.....how would you react?
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reader, Red591 +, writes (23 September 2011):
 well it seems like a pretty reasonable reaction on his part. Why on earth did you tell him that you were going out with guys that were flirting with you. I would definately start sweet talking him and saying that you had no eyes for these guys and that it was just people to meet and that is all. I kinda understand his reaction.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 September 2011):
 What?? You totally wanted him to be jealous! That was insensitive of you when he's missing you, and your story while you're out of town is that you're meeting new guys and they're flirting with you. Why did you have to tell him that?? You made him jealous on purpose!
Come on. Put the shoe on the other foot. What if you were missing him, and when you texted him, he tells you all of the new flirty girls he met and is spending time with. That would hurt you, wouldn't it?
You instigated his jealousy and hurt him. He was missing you, and you intentionally made him hurt more. Now you want to break up with you for it?? I'm sorry, that's cold.
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