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writes: Should I break up with my boyfriend? A little background on me:I'm 16. I dated a really sweet guy for a year, then we broke up, I started dating my current boyfriend, who is also a very sweet guy. We've been dating for 10 months now.The thing is, although he's the sweetest guy ever, I'm not in love with him anymore. I really care about him, but not in the same way I used to. The other thing is, it's his birthday this week, so I don't want to break up with him, and he's so sweet that I can't bring myself to break up with him.I really want to fix things but we're just too different. He's so sweet to me and is an amazing guy, but I just am not into him anymore. He's a little shy, and not the smartest. I want to be able to have an intelligent conversation about current events with my boyfriend, but I just can't do that with him. What should I do? Break up with him or just try to keep going? I'm not sure what the right thing is to do, I really don't want to hurt him. He has no idea this is going through my mind, and it would crush him. I'm his first real girlfriend. Help please..
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 DO NOT break up with him on his birthday...
If it's in a few days celebrate it the best you can with him and then as soon as you can you must tell him that you really can't be his girlfriend anymore.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 Break up with him, but either do it right away or after his birthday. NOT on the actual day itself, that would be very harsh.
There is no point in trying to keep things going when you clearly dont want to, you have said you are too different so the best thing to do is to leave and move on.
I know you dont want to hurt him, but break-ups hurt - end of story. There is no way to break up with someone without hurting them, but think of it this way - if you leave it longer his feelings will be stronger for you, so the longer you are with him the more it will hurt when you do finally end it.
Be brave and do the right thing - it is best for both of you in the long run.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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