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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for nearly 10 months. But for the past month, I've been feeling really, really tired. We always go to the same places and discuss the same topics. Basically, we don't have any common interests - he's interested in...martial arts and bodybuilding and I'm interested in biology, literature and in a few words, much deeper subjects. We're quite different and while it was a good thing in the beginning, it's a bad thing now. I'm really tired of my city and the people around me and he's not exactly helpful, he's not even trying to talk to me about my problems and depressions, he doesn't try to cheer me up or suggest some interesting things we could do. He's also quite childish and often has no opinion. I asked him for a 3-day pause, in which we won't see, text or call each other. So far, I don't feel like I miss him (haven't seen him in 2 days, haven't talked to him for a day), I just feel like quitting smoking - I really want to text him, but I know I shouldn't, so I just make an effort and don't. It's not like I've been crying for the last 2 days or something. That may sound weird, but for the last 10 months, we've seen each other almost every day, with some insignificant exclusions. So - what do you suggest? Should I break up with him in the near future and start looking for a much more mentally developed guy? Or should I try to make our relationship better? Although I really feel he's the one who needs to make some efforts. I'm open to all kinds of suggestions. Thanks in advance. :)
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reader, eyewonder  +, writes (15 January 2012):
To love someone means falling in love with him for a number of times. It does not stop at the moment you feel bored with him. I believe that you and him should meet other people. It does not mean that you have to break up with him in order to solve the problem.
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