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writes:Okay, I have a question just like most of us girls want to ask. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. He seems to me like he dont really care but heres the question. My boyfriend has lied to me about his ex a few times and has cheated on me once. He tells me that this wont happen again but still treats me like crap most of the time , but the reason i still stay is he is good i guess at what most people would call sweet talking but its hard to tell if hes lying about it or is really serious should i stick around? We were best friends before we dated and he knows what i went through with my ex before him. should i stay or should i try and find someone else? I dont want to make a mistake.
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reader, mylassie10 +, writes (18 June 2010):
 It's easier said than done to just leave and wait to find someone else. Trust me. I was told for months to leave my ex and that he was no good but I stuck around because I loved him and I wanted things to go back to the way they were in the beginning. I put myself down and blamed myself for mostly everything. He had broken up with me and during that week I had gone a date. I had texted him when I was on that date because I was miserable with someone else. When we saw each other again I told him that I went on date and he got mad but I thought we had worked through it and agreed to try and make it work. Well he was spiteful and decided to go on a date to get back at me the other night and he told me...that was the end for me.He tried to blame me for not wanting us to work. He has ruind my self esteem and I need to rebuild it. I cry everyday and I feel miserable but I know I can't forgive him and I have to move on. I wish I had listened and got out sooner because my feelings are now very deep but I know there are plenty of guys out there who will treat me better.
You deserve better. You can't see it now but the one you are meant to be with, will not treat you this way. Try to move on and keep yourself occupied. Go about your business and one day you will meet that special someone.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (18 June 2010):
You mean you don't want to lose him if hes done nothing wrong? only you can answer that question then. if you should stay or go because if you make the decision on your own then you will be able to live w/ it. no'one should stay w/ someone who is unfaithful because it only gets worse in so many different ways.
good luck!
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reader, amandanash  +, writes (18 June 2010):
I'm in a situation where my boyfriend told me some stuff i never knew about him. I accepted him, and he wanted to break up. I pretty much had to convince him to stay with me. He told me some harsh stuff, and never once during our troubles did he ever say anything positive or encourage me. I was graveling at his feet essentially and would put myself down for the good of our relationship. I realize now that there is probably someone out there who would treat me like gold and never want to hurt me. I would say break up with you boyfriend. If he's not treating you like you're everything to him, then it's not worth your time. As hard as it is to think of, you will find someone one day that will treat you exactly how you should be treated. Doesn't sound like this guy is that one.
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reader, brandy1980 +, writes (18 June 2010):
Sounds like my ex. If I was you I would take some time for yourself and focus on you. Later on you will find the one that you can truly trust and love.
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reader, Rico +, writes (18 June 2010):
Ok so with most woman I have encountered here where I Live have bad boy friends.now what they tell me is they live the guy to death but like u the guy treats his woman like shit.
They say they can't trust the guy but they can't get over him. So I tell them if u can't trust him Leave! If u want to be happy in life don't stay with a guy who's going to treat u bad even if u think u love him. If u stay all year going to get out of the relationship is disappointment and hart ake
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Problem is, sweetie, want to or not, seek to or not, you're going to make mistakes and alot of them. It's what makes us human. It's part of life, consider it the price of admission. That said, it sounds to me as though you have zero reasons to trust this guy. If you can't trust the guy then there is no good reason to stick with him.
You have to have trust in virtually any relationship without it you're only wasting your time. It's a better idea to get with a man you can trust and not waste yourself on this one. He is what his record says he is.
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