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writes:Hi all, thanks for reading, sorry if this turns into a long post!I just turned 25 and im in my first year of uni. It turns out its not what i expected and its really awful so im looking to change degrees but thats a different matter. Right now i live with my parents but have agreed to move into a flatshare this weekend. My problem is i dont want to leave and my parents are happy if i choose to stay or go. My situation is a little different as i have a rare type of amnesia where i cant remember anything before 5 years ago which means in my head ive only had 5 years with them. I have severe anxiety as well so i always make excuses to back out of things. So this is my question, should i move into this flatshare with nice people and try something new or stay at home in my comfort zone? I literally have no idea what to do.Thanks!
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reader, Denizen +, writes (14 November 2015):
 If you move into a flat it doesn't mean you will never see your parents again. Uni is more about learning who you are than acquiring facts. It's growing up time.
I would go for the flat and make time to see your folks on a regular basis.
To be honest they will probably be glad to get rid of you. (joking).
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 November 2015):
 Stay in your comfort zone while you study. If your parents are happy to have you, and you are happy to be there with your parents I don't see a problem.
Why would you agree to move into a flat-share if you don't really want to do it? Learn to say no, I'm not ready or I love the idea but for now I feel more comfortable staying at home.
But I would work on the anxiety issue, so you can still socialize. Maybe start out with "short" hang out, which means you go hang out for an hour or so, if you don't feel comfortable you go home. Then after a while you up the time.
Though you might want to consider getting some help dealing with the anxiety.
Have you talked to your parents?
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