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writes:I'm worried. My boyfriend is acting weird. He has Bipolar Disorder. He wrote to someone that sent him a letter recently. he put his address and phone number on the letter and he mentioned me. I'm worried because he has told me things about that man. I don't want to say what happened, but it was dangerous. The man doesn't have my address or surname, but I'm worried because I live close to my boyfriend and my boyfriend has given his address out.Also, I posted a comment on facebook today. It was on a page of a company that are putting on a concert that I am going to tomorrow. I asked them what time the concert starts, as I am confused because I have heard different times being mentioned of when it starts. They replied to me. When they replied, it tagged my name in the post, so when people click on my name, it shows my profile page. My boyfriend posted a comment underneath saying " answer (then he wrote my full name, but it didn't tag me in his post ) or trouble ). I'm worried because they might think he is threatening them. He wrote it as a joke, but they might not see it that way. I asked to him to either delete the post, or edit it to say that he was joking, but he said he wont. Do you think I should report the post ,and then hopefully facebook will remove it ( it would be anonymous so he wouldn't know I reported him ), or should I write to the company apologising for his behaviour, or should I just leave it ?. I hope they will let me go in to watch the concert tomorrow. As they have tagged me in the post, they know what I look like and they know my name, so they could recognise me tomorrow.I was going to go with the concert with him tomorrow, but I have changed my mind.I will go with someone else. I don't want to risk him getting us thrown out of the concert. We have had problems when we have been out together in public before when he has been manic and hasn't been taking his medication. He was taking medication recently, but he has stopped now. Should I block him on facebook, and should I end the relationship ?. Am I overreacting or do you think I should be concerned?.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 June 2014):
 Why were you stupid for getting involved with him?
If he was on his meds I'm sure he was a decent lad to begin with, there are just some things you won't know right off the bat when meeting someone.
DO NOT beat yourself up for falling for, and dating him. NOW if you decide to stay, THAT is on you. Knowing what you know..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2014): The friend he wrote to is someone that lives at the other end of the country, so it might not be very likely that he will visit here, but he knows my boyfriends address. He hasn't seen this friend for years. The dangerous thing he did was a very long time ago, about 40 years ago. It has still scared me though. This friend recently wrote to him to tell him that his partner had passed away, and he wanted to see how he was doing.I'm not sure, but I think if he hadn't been manic at the time, he might not have written to his friend. He has been acting strange all week. I could delete and block him ( my profile is already private, although, I have a profile photo and my name is on there ). However, he has photos of me on his facebook page, so if his friend does add him on there, he will see photos of me on there. I deleted my comment on facebook. I'm not sure if my friends will still be able to see it though, and see his comment underneath. I deleted mine because I don't want them to see his comment in their notifications. I also changed my settings so that certain friends cant see things that I comment on, but I don't know if it's too late as I had already posted it?. I guess I'm stupid for getting involved with him. I didn't know he had Bipolar Disorder when I first met him, and I didn't know much about certain people he has known until much later. I had already fallen in love with him by then, and I still love him, but he does weird and stupid things when he is manic and doesn't think about the consequences.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 June 2014):
 Better yet, delete your FB account and learn to live in reality. If he's bipolar, then as one who is VERY familiar with the issues surrounding it, I'd suggest you run for the hills if he stops medicating. Otherwise you're looking forward to years of agony.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 June 2014):
First of all YOU need to set your Facebook setting to PRIVATE and block, unfriend and delete your current BF.
He i off his meds which means he is unpredictable, you might want to change your locks if he has a key.
Should you end the relationship? Do you feel like he is putting you in danger? Do you feel like the guy (of his meds) is a total stranger who doesn't really care about you?
If the answer is yes, then end it. And make sure people around you know.
As for your first part of your post with the letter and a dangerous man, I don't understand a word of what you are trying to say, but maybe you need to consider going to the police or at least make sure your family knows what's going on.
LOVE can not cure Bipolar. Taking his meds can't cure it, but it CAN help him manage it. HE chooses NOT to.
I'd walk away. Heck, I'd run.
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