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writes:Hi guys, I really need some advice. I met a guy a couple of months back, we started seeing each other until a couple of weeks ago. He is in the military and based 400 miles away. He did not want to have a long distance relationship as he thought this would be too hard. He even thought about leaving the military and moving down here so we could be together properly, but his famlily talked him out of it. He removed me from facebook, he said it was too hard to be my friend. I cant even explain how gutted I felt, even though I know deep down that he was right. It wouldnt have worked as a long distance relationship. My problem is though, he is still in my head, in my dreams, all I think about all day is him. I really fell for him. He has kept in touch, by messages on facebook, just like 'hi, how are you' and stuff, and every day I really look forward to seeing whether I have a message from him. Even though we are not friends on facebook, I keep looking at his info page and I can see that he has recently made friends with a couple of girls who live in the area where he is based, and it has literally killed me. I can't keep obsessing over his facebook. I've wondered about blocking him totally, but Im worried he will notice and also he wont be able to get in touch if he wanted to. (I know deep down that he wont change his mind). There is no other way of him contacting me because I recently lost my phone, and have not given him my new number. So guys what I'm asking is, should I block him and move on? That way I wont wake up every morning hoping for a message from him, because he obviously wont be able to send one. Or does that seem immature and over the top? Im so, so gutted about the whole situation. I wish I never met him. I am heartbroken and even crying while I write this.
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reader, Eilish +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Move on girl. It's not fair for you, you have a life that you need to get on with. It's sad when two people who love eachother are apart, but you can't keep hurting yourself like this. Your life can't consist of waiting for him to write anymore, it's not fair. You may think a lot of this person, but truth is you have to accept that it's not going to work. Getting over him will be a long hard process and you have to be committed to do this. Why not take the first step and block him? First though, maybe mail him, let him know that he's done nothing wrong, it's just hurting you and stopping you from getting on with your life (because truth is, it is). This will be emotional, but if you want to be happy again then this is what you need to do. Your life can't keep consisting of going round in circles, waiting for something that won't happen and all the tears that follow.xx
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reader, baseball222  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 hey well i've recently expeirienced the same problem, the guy i was seeing moved and thought it would be too hard too keep a long distance relationship as he has tried before and it didn't go too well. I'm still crushed because of this it's been almost 3 years! so i decided too completly block him from my life but this is hard because i still think about him all the time. i say try too keep him in your life but don't let him stop you from meeting new people. stay strong and if it helps this is what in gonna try too. try to tell me how it goes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): You need to move on and they only way to do that is to block him. You know you can't be in a relationship with him and looking on his profile all the time is just causing necessary pain.
Why keep torchering yourself? Why did he remove you as a friend yet still keep messaging you? Something doesn't add up.
He might have met somebody where he lives and not want you to know. I'm not trying to upset you but waiting around and looking forward to these message isn't healthy.
Even though he's told you he doesn't want a relationship i'm guessing each time you receive a message there's a tiny grain of hope that he'll change his mind.
It's time to move on and not be stuck in this limbo any more. I know right now it feels impossible but once you've blocked him you'll feel stronger for it.
I would send him one last message explaining why, wish him well then block him. Having the option to look at his profile will just make you feel worse. When he does eventually get a girlfriend do you really want to see pictures posted everywhere?
Just do it. You're stronger than you think.
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