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writes:I just broke up with my boyfriend. It hurts a lot and I miss him too. He thinks I cheated on him and after that he completely changed with me. I tried to tell him I'd never cheat on him and even tried to prove it. He always said he believed me but then he'd bring it up again. I hate not being with him and it hurts a lot!! I want to try and work things out with him. But I felt like he tried to control me too much. He would get very jealous if I talked to a guy but everytime I went on his facebook I saw he was talking to girls. Now after he accused me of cheating, he talked to more and more girls. We talked and he said he'd stop doing this. I don't mind him having friends you know. It's just the way he talks to them that makes me mad. So my questions are. . .1. Should I believe him and try to work things out?2. Or, should I just move on?I really do miss him but I don't think he really has changed his ways. He did it before and I gave him 2 chances. Is it time for me to just leave him alone and try something new? My friends all say I have to forget about him. I just don't know what to do. HELP ME PLEASE! ):
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reader, candygirl_iraq  +, writes (10 August 2010):
Your boyfriend actually sounds a lot like....me :/
before I found this site and started talking to an agony aunt,I was so consumed by jealousy and my insecurities. I fught with my bf everytime he added a girl on fb even though he is a very social guy and loves talking to everyone.He adds anyone who send a request,male or female attractive or not. i was jealous from his female friends, co workers,everyone. The worst part is that he never once cheated,flirted,and he proved to me that he loves in every way possible. I did lose him eventually because of my attitude.
I changed drastically and started working on myself and my insecurites and I feel %100 different. He was sad when we broke up too,but wasnt sure I was going to change because he had given me many many chances to stop all the drama and fighting. When he finally realized how hard I worked he did forgive and now things are just GREAT.
Bottom line,can he promise to change? Is ge willing to get help to overcome his trust issues? Sit down and have a talk about what is acceptable and what is not on fb and the net in general.Compromise is needed in relationships, are you ready to make them? If he is then give him another chance since you love him,if not then you should move on.
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reader, jadedblue  +, writes (10 August 2010):
I think deep down your heart knows what you must do. The most important thing between 2 people is trust. He obviously doesn't trust you. You already gave him 2 chances and he blew them both.
You should move on and don't cyber stalk him on fb anymore. It would only hinder you from moving on.
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