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*ainbow_Punk10
writes:My boyfriend and I have had sex twice now..and he keeps worrying about how he hasn't popped my cherry and that hes doing something wrong. Is he doing something wrong? How many times do you have to have sex before you bleed? And if he's doing something wrong, which i don't think he is, can you tell me what he's doing wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, bad romaance  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Not everybody bleeds, you could have broken it years ago without knowing. If you were going to bleed you would have bled the first time. Hes not doing anything wrong. The blood is minimal anyways, one wipe and its gone, if he doesnt believe that you dont have to bleed then the next time you have sex go to the bathroom afterwards and when you come out say you did bleed just to stop him worrying or thinking somethings wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2010): You don't always bleed. A lot of women break/pop their hymen when they were younger (such as riding a bike, etc). I've actually known people who haven't bled more than those who have.
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reader, Cloverfield  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Chances are you broke your hymen accidently years ago, & either didnt notice at the time, or passed it off as something else.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 August 2010):
 Nothing is wrong. Some women just don't bleed. The hymen could have been popped years ago (sometimes they just do) or you could have not had one, or .. I dunno, maybe it popped and didn't bleed? The problem with first time sex, and bleeding if you ask me, has never been the hymen, but the vagina not being large enough for the penis, which causes pain and even bleeding.
But like I said, not all women bleed. I didn't bleed. I have friends that didn't bleed. Many women who come to dearcupid have said they didn't bleed. So it is completely normal. I'll say roughly, from my own observation, only 50% of women bleed their first time, and some 65% experience slight pain, and maybe some 15% experience severe pains and bleedings and problems. So you not bleeding is quite normal.
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