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*aydilla11
writes:I just recently started talking to a ex girlfriend of 6 years and everything was going fine for the first weeks, now we go days without talking. We decided when we first started talking again to take things slow, and i have asked her if anything is wrong because i didn't hear from her for a few days and if there was she can let me know she said everything is fine and she misses me a lot also and wants to hang out soon. Now what has me worried is the fact that she can go days without talking to me or texting me is this normal behavior for trying to take things slow or should i be worried about where this thing is headed?
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (14 July 2012):
 I think some couples can go days without communicating, but I am not sure what kind of relationship this is. I am a big believer in daily communication even if it is just "Hi, how are you today, what are you doing, and I was thinking about you." I you are really interested in building your relationship up again, I would go with some of the suggestions I made, be really positive, and see how she responds. Usually, if you get a woman talking about her day, something she enjoys, or cares about, she will start opening up with you and consequently want to talk to you frequently. Communication and sharing your experiences is one thing that bonds you together. When you aren't doing that, you aren't building the relationship. Not that you have to talk everyday all day, but there is always something I want to share with my boyfriend. If you do the things I mentioned for a few weeks and she doesn't come around, I would talk with her and see if she is really interested.
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reader, Jaydilla11 +, writes (14 July 2012):
Jaydilla11 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo when i text her she responds its the fact that she does not initiate contact for days on end.. If i were to text her she would text me right back so that's not the problem. I just feel like she is being distant but maybe it is possible she does not want to seem eager or worried about it going so fast that what has me confused thank you all for responding to my question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2012): if you were to text her would she respond? so is it that she's just not initiating contact for days on end, or is she ignoring you when you do try to contact her?
she may be cautious about initating contact,not wanting to seem eager for example, or afraid of things going too fast. but if she does respond when you contact her then her interest is still there and she's just got some mental blocks about wanting you to initiate the contact first, or she just feels comfortable with this current level of closeness.
but if she actually ignores you for days then I think she's not interested anymore.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 July 2012):
 I’m a daily contact person too.. in fact before we moved in together, we were LDR and my fiancé had to learn to accept I wanted twice daily contact with him… he did it to make me happy… if you need more contact then you need to talk to her about it....
One thing I want to say is that if she’s an EX…s he was an ex for a reason… how long were you apart before getting back together? Because I have to be honest, she’s an ex for a reason and it’s rare that it will work out if you broke up for viable reasons that have not changed
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2012): Bond girl is right on the money. I've been dating someone for 2 months, and if he doesn't contact me everyday, I get very anxious. Based on my past experiences, I automatically conclude he's lost interest...but I won't contact him. I just stew and make up vivid stories of what he's doing. It will make her feel special if you reach out to her first.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (13 July 2012):
It has never been normal for me to go days without talking to a man I care about. However, she may be afraid of taking much intiative at this point in time or she may not completely trust you yet. I think girls can be very protective of themselves and will emotionally distance themselves until they feel comfortable. Since she is an ex, she may be very careful about getting to close to you in the event it doesn't work out again. So, my advice would be for you to take the intiative for awhile to text and ask how she is doing, share things with her about what you are doing, call and ask her out, and generally show a lot of interest in her and her life. If she feels you are genuine and starts feeling close to you again, she will open up and talk and text more. Make sure you compliment her and show her that she is special to you. And, if you want to talk with her, call or text and tell her. You may have to do this for several weeks before she comes around. If she doesn't show any signs of affection or wanting to be closer (calling more, texting you more, asking you to go out, suggesting things), then you may want to think about if this is meant to be.
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