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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months now. I met her at my previous office. She is drop dead gorgeous and were both 23. She started flirting with me about 3 years ago and invited me to her birthday party. I went around being the only odd one out as she is originally from Ukraine and I am from Indian descent. At the party I also met her fiance too. I went home when she started drunk texting me dirty things. I carried on for a bit then went to sleep a little confused. At work our relationship got stronger and quickly realized jumping bed first into a relationship was no biggie for her. I was uncomfortable at first as I never did anything like this before.She married the guy and I called it off with us. Besides the odd drunken hook up at work do's. Then came a much older manager into the office, around 45. I noticed them hanging out quite a bit. I heard the guy telling a few boys at a bar one day what a little slut she is and how he would love to bend her over. I told her this and she said he was just a creep.Over the course of 9 months they seemed to be spotted everywhere together and my co workers who knew about our fling told me everything they saw. She facebook messaged me one day telling me she still loved me, replied with I know what you and so and so are doing. She went off at me accusing me of being hostile and that she is his PA. The xmas party december last year i decided ill break even with her and tell her no hard feelings, we started talking and left it at that. She text me to see me what i was doing over the xmas holidays, which i replied camping with good friends. She wanted to come so i thought why not. I took her with me and we began to get closer and closer not in the jump into bed kind. I enjoyed it greatly and officially asked her out. I forgot to mention the old man at the office left for a new job. She declined me saying she wanted to move overseas, but stayed close with me. We got back in town and hung out everyday, took her off road with me and my buddies (when we introduce a girl its a big thing in my group of friends). We started dating.One day at poker night with the boys, a work mate pulled me aside and said your too into her and i should back off, i asked him why and he said she had been pregnant to the old man 2 months ago. I had already questioned her about it 3 times and she looked me dead in the eye and told me nothing happened. I immediately text her asking if this was true. After allot of avoidance she said it was. Which i was shattered. She had left her husband about 2 years back by now. I made my mind up, moved overseas for a few months to work and concentrate. Before i left she came around full of tears telling me she didnt want to hurt me. Long story short, i recently returned, we are living together now. She seems very commited but i cannot help but always feel there are things i dont know about or fully trust her. She said she loved me because i made her laugh, and the old man sweet talked her and she gave in. She said All they had was sex, which made it worse! And that after they would do it, they would lie there and she would tell him how much she loved me. It stuck in my head and i cant help it but it eats me up everyday. Her internet history showed she has been looking at his profile, which i asked her about she said she hadent in a while. Her ex husbands cousin who is 39, is now one of her best friends. He does not talk to her ex husband because of her. He is always there to help her and they went on trips around the country together. She visited his house regularly for dinner etc and aparantly is the only one he listens to? She said nothing has happened between them but i cant help but think something has. Im trying to figure out why he is around as a "friend" he is single. He always makes comments only about her when we are at a do together. And she left her phone at home oneday, i couldnt help but go thru it. I found out her calls her baby? Should i be worried? Am i with the right girl? With such a colourful history, im worried she will easily find another me who makes her laugh and jump ship or another creep who will sweet talk her into bed. I know sex is not a big thing for her judging by her past and she could do it in a flash. Also i heard the old man is back at the old office now again, she has recently left but has friends there still. When they see each other again, will it be on? Everything i wanted to do with her, he has already, she has been on his motorbike, on his jetski. He has a wife and kids but he is just the complete corporate womanising prick you could imagine. Should i just get over it? if so.... HOW!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): She could have changed? Have you thought of that?
And tell her about the guy mate who calls her baby. If she loves you she will let him go or text him openly in front of you to stop. She can tell him its causing issues in your relationship. If you tell her this and if they still contact each other or if she hides it ie: hiding her phone, then she isnt willing to let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): Not worth it. The girl is garbage.
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