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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months already and the only person who knows is my older sister, I've asked my mom if I can date and she said yes it's fine, but my dad would kill me and him if he found out.. Should I be upfront with my parents about our relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 June 2014):
 Yes, because if you keep hiding it you ERODE the trust your parents have in you.
Talk to them. Starting with your mom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2014): Yes u should speak to your mother about your boyfriend, I'd like to think at your age that it is a kiss you give him and nothing more, not just for legal reasons, the risk of pregnancy or more, also you need to be emotionally mature if u feel otherwise you should speak to your mother. Your mother has been your age she understands how you feel but will want to protect you and keep you safe please speak to her, trust is earned. As of your father your his little girl the idea of yoy having a boyfriend will always be hard for him to take in, but that's because he wants too look out for you, and has been a young lad himself he knows what they are thinking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2014): Yes, you should be upfront and honest with your parents about everything you do.
You gain their trust when you're honest. They will put their foot down when you're not. Your mother should not say yes, if your father says no. They should both be on the same page when it comes to when it is time for you to date.
You're hiding something from your father that you know he didn't give you his permission to do. He will find out on his own. It might go a lot easier on you, if you told both your parents the truth.
Would you rather they find out and angrily end it altogether? Not that they won't anyway. They have the right to as parents, if they feel you're too young.
Let me say something else. At your age it is not considered a "relationship." You don't have a clue what that entails until you are much older.
If you're sexually-active and not using condoms; whatever restrictions and punishment your parents decide, would be far too good for you. Doing things behind their backs is very wrong. They are morally and legally responsible for your safety and well-being. Imagine how angry your dad would be if that boy got you pregnant!
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