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*verlyConfusedGurl
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years(in May). The past few months have really been rough. All we ever seem to do it fight and argue. The thing is... and maybe it's just all in my head but he seems to always be pointing the finger of blame at me for the problems. For example, I had 5000 dollars in my account about a month ago and now I have like 750 left. I spend about 2300 of it on him. When I told him how much was left the other day he went off on me. Saying how it's my fault for it, why didn't I tell him this earlier, etc. He made me print off my bank statements and "reviewed" them. Besides me spending around 450 on myself for personals wants, the rest of it went to things I needed. (doctor, school stuff, etc) He added up that 850 (even though he said 1000 at first) went to fast food, unknown atm withdrawls, and starbucks (yes starbucks, all 25.00 worth of it) was wasted spending (even though fast food was for both of us)He went on to tell me that he will be in control of "our" fininaces now. All money will run through him. By the way I'm 26 years old, I'm not a child. Now get this.... he gets a G.I Bill at the end of every month. I also gave him 1200 dollars out of that 5000 of mine. Where did that all go? He was broke as well, but failed to mention what he spent 2500 on in the past month. There was no, let's look at my bank statements, it was just MY FAULT we were in a finincial burden. THEN he takes back his extra bank card he gave me (which I had only used like 5 times, I mean I had my own money ya know?) right after we got done doing the deed one day. I was like... oookay.... and then had the audacity to ask me to go get him beer and fastfood and actually thought I was going to spend my money on it! After he "bitched" me out not but a day or two before about this very thing. To top it off, he keeps riding me about finding a better job. I have to work, he expects me to work. I'm still in school too so it's hard. At the same time he is in school and does not work. Why? (this is great) he has been telling me that if he gets a job he will lose his G.I Bill. BIG FAT LIAR! I actually have been believing this for quite some time now until I asked my best friend to ask her dad who is one of the top vetern lawyers in the US about it. He said that it was a lie and he would NOT lose his GI Bill if he decided to get a job. My boyfriend has also told his dad this exact excuse while robbing him blind for money over the past year. What is his problem? Is this messed up? Surely to God I'm not being unreasonable here. I hope I'm not freaking out over this for no reason, and that this is WRONG for him to do to me. Any suggestions?
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reader, ButterflyKisses +, writes (21 February 2009):
Girl, you need to run for the hills. This guy is a controlling loser. I gather from the spirit of your post that you know what you should do - you just need to do it. Get outta there - fast!
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