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writes:its a tough situation but guys and gals i really need ur help!! im desperate :(...ive been with my bf for 4months now.but we know eacher other 4over a year now and we both liked each other long beofre we officially got together. i mustsay that we are of different religions, but its not a problem for neither of us! the reason i said so is because as u all know tomorrow is xmas eve,and he's having 2friends over, we've talked amonth ago that he was gonna invite them over to spend the nite, need to add that they are the same religion as mine, and different than his, so its not that agrp of his christian frnds getting together and im not included... not abig deal so far,but whatim mad about is that he didn't invite me over. knowing that his whole family spends the night together, and it has been really bothering me to know that he didnt invite me, although he said id do anything to be with u, and iwished that we could be together on xmas and everyday of our life..but the thing is my mom has been giving us a hard time since she knew i was with him(since different religiongs, and she is giving us a hard time when we go out as a grp of friends, and she doesnt want me to go out with him alone just the 2 of us, so that may be the reason why he didnt ask me...but then there's new yrs eve and we know that my dad might not be ok with the idea of me not celebrating it like last yr, but with my friends, and despite all that we talked about celebrating new yrs eve with friends in a restuarant...so anyways my point is, should ibe sad that he didnt invite me?? should itell him that i got a bit sad because i cant spend xmas eve with him?? tell me what to do... cz see his friends are coming over from a different country, and they come just after he finishes work so icant talk to him until dec 25th in the evening!!plzzzzzzzzzzzzz ineed urhelp!! im such ina bad situation inthe past 4days and ireally need uradvice!thxall!
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reader, lovely_babe +, writes (24 December 2008):
lovely_babe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthey are guy friends, from another town...
i should have also said that we live in the us,i was born here but went to another country, which they are not as open minded as here in the us, parents still have the power over their kids when they're even 18 and 21! it doesnt matter...so u see problem...should i feel sad he didnt invite me, although i probably wasnt going, becuase my mom wouldn't let me, but why im pissed off is that he didnt invite me, just the thought that he didnt invite me and didnt think to invite me is what is bothering me :(...i have my own reasons why i dont want to tell him, 1 is i dont want him to feel guilty..and many other reasons... i hope this clarified the situation more
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (23 December 2008):
 what a load of bull! if hes your man, then you should be able to talk to him when ever you like you are between 18 and 21 your an adult now.. if your parent and his parent are laying that on you its because they are insecure about your social life it this stage...
im sorry sweety but this as bad parenting, your and his parents need to be communicative and not imposing on you. dictative parenting is the evil in every family... chat to your parents you need to tell them how you feel they should be respecting you as a human being not dictation and imposing rules in you especially at that age.
as a result its cause a breakdown in communication between you and him (your boyfriend)... God never wanted parents to dictate to his children. we are human and this is why he put us here why are we able to pro-create? that's the beautiful thing he gave us... so dont let your parent in respect to religion pull you apart or corrupt the relationship.
if he's being stand off ish then find out who comming over... are they guys? girls? family? you need to clarify this in your message.
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