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writes:Hi, ive recently met a girl (19) and im (21). On our first date we just clicked and we didnt look back. There was something about her we would just lay there staring into each others eyes whilst exchanging the occasional smooch. Normally i would of felt uneasy staring into someones eyes for so long but not this girl, she has the most gorgeous eyes and smile which captivates me and likewise she loved staring and smiling back. We've been seeing each other for around 2 weeks and we've met up around 4-5 times. During this period we've already had sex 3 times and ive stopped over at her house on 1 occasion. We were planning on spending the night together tonight but i came home to an email from her saying that things are going to fast and her mind is mixed up and she needs time to think as she doesnt want to communicate to me the wrong signals. I was devastated as i never meant to add any pressure to make her feel like this and she has asked for some time alone without contact so she can think. My main concern is that this email is essentially saying im dumped. Im not hard to talk to yet the email was sent at 17.10 today yet i rung her when i left work at 17.35 asking if she was still coming over to meet the parents. She said "yer or maybe tomorrow" without sounding out of character or uneasy. But now i feel like i have only made the situation worse as she had already sent this email 20 minutes prior. Should i be right to think that this is maybe an easy way out as surely she could of said on the phone rather than letting me believe we were still meeting up.The transcipt (not exact) is below" just been thinking and i dont want you to take this the wrong way but i think we need to slow it down! i do like you but with everything thats been going on recently my emotions have been all over the place. i feel like im rushing into something that i might not want just yet and i dont want to give you the wrong impression like i might have done already. you have been great with me over the past weeks and i thank you for it. im asking you not to contact me i need some time and space to get my head around things and to think things through. im so sorry...spk to you soon "Can anyone shed some light on this situation as i do genuinley like her and i dont want to think she is that kind of character but i hear these methods used all the time and i hope im proved wrong that she has cowardly dumped me. No-one will know for sure but it will help to understand if anyone has had similiar experiences.Cheers
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reader, cd206 +, writes (16 May 2007):
 You know what? I feel the same as her. I read your opening paragraph and then read two weeks and gasped. She's not dumping you, she's just worried you're going to talk her out of taking things slow. Write her an email and tell her you agree that taking things slow is the wa forward but you would like to meet up and talk about it and is she free sometime next week? Try to leave at least a week so you can think about what you want to say and she doesn't feel crowded. Good luck.
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