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writes:So my ex and I broke up two months ago after a two year relationship and recently, I've started hanging out with a guy I dated for four months back in sophomore year of high school. I really like this guy, mainly because we seem to be more compatible now than we were those four years ago. I do want to be with him (I told him I like him) but I wonder if it was a mistake to actually tell him how I feel? Especially so soon after my last break-up.As soon as I told him, he went silent for a second, but smiled and said it's not really the right time because he has tennis and six classes to keep up with this semester (he's the most laid-back over-achiever you will ever meet). But damn, he's so funny, cute, intelligent, nice, and I just can't describe how amazing he is in just words! I really hope I didn't already screw shit up with him, though!Last night, right when I got on AIM, he signed off and then about five minutes later, I get on Facebook and greet him with, "Why aren't you ever on AIM when I am? lol" and literally ten seconds later, he signed off Facebook. I was embarassed and seriously wondered if I made a mistake of trying to talk to him so soon after us hanging out.I then started talking to my other friend on Facebook just a minute after that and she said, "He might be playing the 'game'. He should call you in about three days." And I was like, "Okay, what the crap!? The 'game'? What is that and should I be worried?" And she told me no but I'll have to work on my patience when it comes to this particular thing. Well, that's basically shot to hell considering I already told the guy I like him!And the other night, I had a freakin sex dream about him! And then today, I was listening to a song that had absolutely nothing to do with sex and it made me think of me and this guy having sex and getting all sweaty and passionate and everything... and I really liked it. At one point, I couldn't wait for it to happen! I felt like I was out of control because I can usually control my urges better than anyone I know!He also makes me forget things but at the same time, when I'm around him, I feel like the most intelligent and beautiful person in the world! I know that sounds really conceited and all, but it's how he makes me feel! He makes me feel like I can conquer it all! Around him, I feel strong, independent, willful, relieved of all my stresses, and at peace with the world. I NEVER felt any of that around my last boyfriend.I will definitely be cheering him on at his tennis matches and maybe even show up during one or two of his practices to give him lunch or something. I care about him a lot and bringing him food, taking care of him, and letting him know he matters (although he doesn't need the reassurance) is just something I'm bound to do. I'm an oldest child and during my childhood, I did have to grow up faster than most of my friends and nurturing and caring for someone that I care about is just in my nature.And by coincidence, we're planning on going to same university in Fall of 2010 after we finish at the local community college here. I basically just want to know if I'm already showing the signs of being clingy or if I'm right in feeling a little freaked out about screwing all this up already? Also, what do you think he's thinking about all this? Am I over-analyzing all this? Should I be playing the 'game' as well? Basically, I want you to tell me what to do with this whole thing. lol Please help. I'm a little over-whelmed about all this...
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reader, Djmclucas113 +, writes (6 February 2009):
 LOL don't worry this is normal for when you find someone really special but make sure you take things slow with the whole coming to games and stuff it's fine that you go but ask him first if you can bring him food because otherwise he will feel weird at practice with all his friends but otherwise youre fine
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