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writes:I was working with this girl K and my friend L and her friend C. Our boss LO, was always ingrained in L's life calling and texting her, and L asked me to make him stop with the text messages. After a while I discovered that LO was spreading rumors about me. When K started I liked her a lot and we hit it off. She smoked weed, and I also did. We were planing on hanging out at my house that Monday. Over the weekend, L and K were texting me about LO going on a rampage, and he told K defaming things about me. Which were all lies. Such as: he is obsessive and he hurts women. Unfortunately K got out of a bad relationship and did believe LO. She blocked me that day and refused to talk to me on the day I got fired. L said she started it "accidentally" and her friend C snitched me out with exaggerated stories. I want to be mad at L because she work close with K. If the shoe was on the other foot I would of told L's none of what was said was true, but L didn't have my back. Should I be mad at L for helping to cause K not to like me anymore?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2017): Weed smoking, messing around with female co-workers, manipulation by L, and not concentrating on your job is what got you fired.
No one can fire you for rumors they've heard. That is an abuse of authority and unfair termination. Most employers have to substantiate a firing in the United States. Though they are protected by Right to Hire Laws, you also have rights as an employee. So I think you've left out a lot of details regarding that.
Why would you confront your boss regarding something alleged by a co-worker? That wasn't very smart. If she had a problem, she should have taken it to Human Resources, or his boss. He fired you for insubordination, if not for anything else. You didn't need any help from K. Blame yourself.
Everything revolves around the female you label as L.
If you want my honest opinion, it's this. Cut yourself loose from all of the letters: L, K, and LO. Get your sh*t together, and find yourself another job.
You might want to layoff smoking weed for the next couple of months in-case you have to do a pre-employment drug test.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 April 2017):
 A madhouse indeed. This all sounds like some trashy teenage soap opera. I suggest you not squander precious time and energy being angry but consider this a learning lesson.
For starters, when a woman asks you to get some guy to stop sending her texts - DECLINE and keep her at a polite distance. Coming to the aid of a woman in real danger is one thing, but doing her social dirty work is entirely another.
And for another, choose your friends more wisely. Most people you can have a good time with a acquaintances, not friends. The latter prove themselves over time.
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reader, N91  +, writes (25 April 2017):
 Why did you get fired exactly?
What kind of place of work is this where your boss talks about you behind your back? I'd be looking into legal action if you've been unlawfully fired, never mind wondering who to be mad at.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (25 April 2017):
 I don't know about being mad but it sounds like a mad house you were working in.
Go and work somewhere more normal, and quit the txting. Definitely quit the txting at work. Get your head down, do your hours then go home.
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