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writes:Can someone's feeling for you change in two months?My ex and I broke up in September 2015. We didn't speak for 4 months then out of the blue one day he texted me. We started talking, and hanging out as just friends. We talked about stuff like what if we got back together, wanting to be together again, and how we regretted breaking up in the first place. We also talked about how we both really miss each other and that we should have tried harder in our relationship instead of giving up and breaking up.In February my ex would tell me how much in love he was with me, how he knew we was meant to be, how the first we had, had sex since starting to talk again it felt like we was "one". He said that he wanted to marry me if he had to marry anyone. He would say stuff like he could love me like no one else could. And it felt like to him that something was tying us together and keeping each other in each others lives. Pretty much a lot of crazy stuff I've never heard him say before. And even now he wants us to still remain friends (nothing sexual anymore). He said he still has feelings for me and that over time they may or not go away.The only problem is. He just got engaged recently and I'm in a relationship. He has a daughter now. And he told me about the engagement he said he felt like it's something he had to do because he has his daughter and he just had to make the most out of his relationship. He also said that he had a fear of us getting back together because of the past issues we had repeating theirself or me changing my mind and not being happy (I broke up with him). So we agreed to stay friends (talking only) no hanging out. So my question is can his feelings change for me in 2 months? Or is he just trying to do the right thing for his daughter and really make the relationship work with his fiance?
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reader, Maysaxx  +, writes (21 September 2018):
Lol thst sounds like someone i married and you know what if ut wass him then dont listen to it alll lies
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2017): All you've explained in your first two paragraphs is just the prelude to post-breakup sex. That's all it was. He's full of bullsh*t and just flowered you with pretty words to get sex and leave you without a drama. You fell for it.
His feelings were what they always were after the breakup. Bitter!!! Once you broke-up, he wanted revenge. He knew his sweet-talk would expose any residual-feelings you had left for him. It let him know there was still a soft-spot.
Now for the clincher. He hit you with the magic phrase "I love you." Women always fall for that one. It's like some kind of tranquilizer-dart or magic spell that makes you believe anything a guys says once he's said it.
He continued feeding you all this stuff and watching you soak it all up. Just so he could spring the news on you that he's engaged and moving on. He knew that would be a total zinger for breaking-up with him.
He has no choice but to do the right thing by his daughter; and he's not giving-up his freedom out of nobility. He just couldn't move on without knowing he hurt you back.
His plot was to hurt and confuse you. So cut him loose, delete and block his number, and get on with your present relationship. Exes belong in the past. If you need friends, meet new people and start from scratch.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (25 April 2017):
 Anything is possible, but the only thing that matters is he's with someone else and he has a child with that person. You may have broken up with him originally, but he chose to pair up with someone else.
It isn't fate keeping you together. It's your mutual refusal to let go and move on.
It is totally unrealistic and inappropriate to agree to remain friends with him. Would you like your current fiancé and the father of your child maintaining a similar relationship with their ex?
Use your head.
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reader, N91 +, writes (25 April 2017):
 He got bored of his relationship and wanted to sleep with you, pretty simple.
If he wanted to marry you then why is he marrying someone else?
He fed you some bulls*it to sleep with him and you fell for it hook, line and sinker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2017): Dude....let this drainer go! He has a kid. And is in a relationship.
Some guys are really too emotional and love the drama. He doesn't want you or he wouldn't be with someone else let alone make a child with her. Get it? Actions speak louder than words.
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