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writes:I am head over heels for this amazing guy who shares the same feelings towards me, next step would be to just get together right? Wrong, he wants to sort through the commitments he already has before taking on another. Now we are friends with benefits and its a very comfortable relationship. Do I wait for him and just enjoy what we already have? or am I setting myself up? Right now the plan is to take it slow and hope for the best but is it wrong for me to continue sleeping with him when I don't know where this will end up?
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 How convenient for him to have such a good friend who tolerates him making the rules. He is making excuses. If he wanted to be with you, no 'other commitments' would stand in the way. You deserve someone who cares about your feelings and returns them fully, not just in a half-arsed way that makes you question what's going on. Trust me, the moment he finds someone who he does want to have a proper relationship with, you won't see him for dust, no matter how close your friendship feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): I've never rly heard of any instance of fwb turning into a couple. Most likely he will not change his mind since he is getting a comfortable relationship and sex whenever he wants. I am unsure what other so called commitments he already has but it sounds a little fishy to me. Should you just be happy? Well it is up to you to decide, if you want more you should aim for that, or if you are content then be so, but you are asking this site for advice so I sure you already have doubts that this will not work.
I think if you talk to him and explain to him how you feel, hopefully he can understand and agree to stop the fwb until he has sorted himself. If he doesn't then well guess that is a clear sign on what he wants from you.
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