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*aySpring
writes:So I've been talking to his guy since January and dating him since may. We're both pretty messe up people (based on the past) and we've had maybe a couple arguments before we dated but then began having more when we started dating. Lately when we have fights he doesn't text me or anything for a day but the next he'll text me saying sorry he overreacted. We usually fight over me not being able to hang out with him since recently my grandma was in the hospital and died just last week. Ever since she was admitted I've been negligent I think? I was just sad and when she passed I was even more depressed about it. After her passing, he picked fights over a guy friend that came to visit me to pay his respects and the fact that I still talk to this guy after he is a bad friend when in reality he just helps me out a lot. Well now to te problem, last week on Thursday we got into an argument about my guy friend and I was in no mood to be fighting so I just told him "if you feel that way maybe we should just break up" then he told me "is that what you think about?" then he said "just stop texting me" and I just put alright. I just want to know if we're over? This is the longest he hasn't texted me or called me or anything. And I just graduated high school but hes barely moving on to become a senior. Should I be expecting him to call me or should I just stop?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2013): I went out with a guy like this- he knew I had depression problems and used it to manipulate me I.e. after an argument, he would often text me saying "let's just call it off", this isn't a relationship, etc. All my friends/ family drummed it into me he was playing games, now I realise he's just always gotta play the victim. Btw this guy was also VERY messed up, childhood traumas, emotional baggage.... It's not a relationship and I'm betting he's quite unhinged in his own way. He was my 2nd and last bf- and now? He's actually put me off relationships, cos it was so stressful and emotionally draining! Just cut the cord, do it, it's not worth the hassle, maybe as friends, but nothing more. It's not guna change, unless maybe he gets a psychiatrist lol... It doesn't matter where he thinks you both are, just make e final resolve to get rid. Good luck! :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2013): The easiest way to make sure OP is to just do it yourself, are you waiting for is permission or something?
Just send one final message, thanks for the good times but there are too many bad, we're done, you're gone, have a nice life.
Pretty simple to make sure a relationship is over, you just break up and break off contact.
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reader, MaySpring +, writes (10 July 2013):
MaySpring is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not planning on talking to him again and I meant that I've been the one wanting to break up. I just want to make sure if it's really over so I don't waste my time anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2013): Talking to this guy since Jan, dating now for about 2 months and he's jealous, possessive, you argue a lot over rubbish things, he's even talked about breaking up now.
OP the question you have to ask yourself is what's the point?
I mean seriously, what use is dating this guy, your "relationship" sounds shit.
He's so immature that somehow feels neglected when you grieve for your granny?
OP is this your first boyfriend or something because you and he don't work at all. He does the silent treatment when you have one of your regular fights? Oh come on OP, no relationship is perfect but this is two people who don't get along and a very immature little boy who likes to throw his toys out of the pram when he doesn't get his way.
Walk away OP, really, is this what you call a relationship? Well you better change the definition OP because you and he just do not work, I don't care how much he looks like Justin Beiber or how lovely his girly hair is, or how swag he is. Deep down you and he just can't make this work. It's only been a couple of months, this is the honeymoon period when everything is supposed to be sweet and romantic, all you do is fight.
Just end it, why are you sticking around?
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