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writes:dear cupid, i have been in a realtionship with my man for 2 months now. we are so loved up and get on like a house on fire, we live quite a distance apart (40mins) and we both work till late evening apart from weekends where we are both lucky we have sat and sun off. During the week we see eachother about twice or three times a week but not for long because it gets late and we have to be up early for work the next day. I feel as if saturday and sunday are the only days we get to spend a whole day together without rushing and travelling. Heres the probelm : before he got into a realtionship with me he went out with his freinds every saturday and recovered in bed most of the day sunday. When we first began seeing each other this was not a problem, i respected this. But now things are getting more serious i feel like he should want to spend the weekend with me rather than on the piss with his friends. this weekend he lied to his friends and told them he couldnt make it out because he was away, instead of being straight and telling them he was spending it with me! i felt quite offended at this, even though it showed me he would have rather spent it with me he still lied as if he couldnt stand up to his mates and say he was gonna spend time with his lady this weekend. At the moment his mates are saving up for graduation as they are still in uni so i dont think he will be going out for at least a fortnight. i feel like im 'second best' i know he loves me but he cant tell his mates that he would rather spend time with me. what is going on in his head? i feel like i need to tell him how i feel but i dont want him to think im being a pain or possesive! or maybe i should refuse to see him during the week and say im busy but i would only be spiting myself then. what can i do? i really dont want to argue with him. but he needs to stand up to his mates, i mean he would if he really loved me,right?? Reply to this Question
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reader, childof1981  +, writes (14 November 2011):
 Last thing first. Ending your message with "if he really loved me" is crazy. You have been dating for only two months your relationship does not have deep roots yet. He may not be telling his mates about you, because he does not want them to think your are stealing them away or being controlling. Relax and don't read into things too heavily.
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reader, NFenix +, writes (14 November 2011):
Dont be offended by this, normally when guys enter a new relationship its common. When the guys call your boyfriend up and ask him to hang out and he gives them a bs reason dont be offended, guys dont even think about it when they make up that lie, its just a white lie. If his friends knew the truth they probably wouldnt mind either.
Next time he does it just ask him in a calm manner why he didnt tell them that he was going to be with you.
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